living son, she & my father wanted me to have whatever inheritance was "left" but, at the rate of $5208 @ mo. this is dwindling fast. She has a $15000 annunity, funeral paid for, when reaching a certain amount to apply for medicaid, the question is how do I received any type of inheritance at this point. She has demintia; I have POA, guardianship etc. of all her matters. My only brother died 6 yrs. ago whom my parents financially supported due to his health issues - not trying to sound "greedy" but I would like to think I'm entitled to some type of inheritance??? Legal what can I do? What is the legal matters of "gifting" without hurting her prospects when she does indeed need to file for Medicaid?
Thank you,
I am afraid that fewer and fewer middle class people can expect to be able to leave a significant financial legacy now that life spans have increased so dramatically. Now people's retirement money has to support them for 20 or 30 or 35 years after they stop working, and often for many of those years they may require expensive care. No wonder so many cannot even continue as private pay residents but at some point have to apply for assistance in the form of Medicaid. They can't pay for their own care and they have nothing left to leave to another generation. This is very sad, both for the individuals involved and for the social divide between the haves and the have-nots. But it is currently they way it is.
Do seek expert advice on your particular situation. And do be glad that your mother can at least pay her own way at this time (as I'm sure you are).
You could go to see an elder law attorney to see what would be possible in your mom's state that will pass the review. There is a "Personal Services Contract" that can often be done - by this she would pay you a reasonable amount to "manage" her affairs &/or take care of her. But imho at this point, the nursing home is doing her daily care, & with her home being sold and no real investments (like stocks or other financials that need monitoring) her finances are pretty transparent with each month clearly showing the balance forward and the set amounts each month taken out for the NH there probably isn't any real need for you to get paid to do that.
Whatever you do, realize that you & her are fortunate to have the $ to pay for her care.You know if they live long enough, they will run out of $....eventually.
Sometimes it can be almost better not to sell the house, if it is paid for and costs a reasonable or modest amount to be maintained,. Although you pay for the upkeep/taxes/etc but then file for reimbursed from the estate after death. Plus this amount gets deducted from whatever Medicaid estate recovery may go after.