I will be moving to AZ myself in approximately 3 years. I need advice on how to make this move easier for mom. Stress of airplane ride. Getting to know her new surroundings and making new friends. My sister heard that moving can turn there moderate condition into severe. One day mom wants to move and the next is apprehensive and doesn't remember talking to me about it. I really could use help from my sister as I have been a care giver for the last 7 years and need a break. All suggestions welcome.
If Grandfather wants to continue to stay someplace he can receive a lot of care one question is can he afford that? Does he have assets and income sufficient to pay for assisted living, for example? Would he need to qualify for Medicaid or VA benefits to do that? If so, the social worker where he is now can help you navigate that path.
The other question is what level of care does he need? Could he return to his home if he had sufficient support services? Would that be acceptable to him? Would assisted living be appropriate?
Help him figure out what he needs and how to afford it. Take advantage of any resources available to you in doing this, such as the social worker.
What is your mom's health status. You mention that she forgets conversations. Does she have dementia? Other health concerns like diabetes, chf, etc.? Will she be moving in with your sister or into a facility? A little more information may elicit more suggestions. I think ladeeda has some good ideas.
Are you moving to be near your sister? (that would explain that weird comment about moving causing her condition to become "severe.")
If you need to move to have help with your Mom or for your job...you need to do it sooner than later. If you wait, perhaps your Mom will not be able to travel.
In terms of "settling in" to a new place, tell your Mom that you will be doing it together. Make it a new adventure. When she shows signs of anxiety, just redirect her attention to something positive or an advantage to moving to your new home.
I think I misunderstood- did u say in 3 years?
hugs to u
She may have a certain amount of depression or anxiety with new surroundings, but if she is to be moved, then anticipate a certain amount of distress coming from her.. Even people without elder issues face the same issues when they have made a major move... I would give her some time in her new environment then possibly a day care where she could meet new friends... Just lots of love and reassurance, a new Dr. waiting, and having things set up for her when she gets there... it will be an adjustment for everyone, but that does not mean it will cause a decline, she may adjust very well after a period of time... good luck and prayers and angels sent your way for all about to happen..let us know how things go...