My Mother is 95 years old, she will be 96 this week. We feel she is in the early stages of dementia. We are blessed to have had her with such a clear mind for so long. About 6 months ago after her baby brothers death we noticed the change/decline in her health. Very quiet, not wanting to eat, not wanting to drink water, not wanted to be left alone, tremors when holding items. She was an avid writer and reader, she has no interest in that at allow. She loved going out and talking on the telephone, she no longer has an interest in those things. She likes to stay at home and sit, and sleep, she seldon initiates conversation. She is on medication. I hired a sitter, and I also got her a life alert system. She is never alone. I filed for power of attorney last week. What is going on with her and what more can we do to make life more comfortable for her.
Can you tell us whether she has been evaluated for dementia and depression? Is she taking meds for either condition? Does she have other chronic conditions such as diabetes or chf or copd?
You may have some success by not waiting until she says she wants to do something. What if you or another family member popped in and said, "I've just discovered a delightful little restaurant that has chicken and dumplings on their menu. I'm hoping you'll go with me and see how they compare to your recipe. If we go soon they won't be crowded. Would you like me to fetch your sweater or your jacket?" I've had some success with this approach with my mother, but I can't pull it off very often.
She is on medication. What kind? How long has she been on it? Could the dose be too high or too low?
Has she had a medical evaluation since these symptoms appeared?
I know you'd like more answers, and I think a little more information from you might prompt more discussion.
You mother is lucky to have such a loving family.
What meds is she on? Anything for depression?