My mother (90) has dementia, macular degeneration, and had colon cancer so has colostomy which we irrigate daily. My question, she has been with me 4 years, now wants to get her a house. She thinks she can take care of herself, said she is tired of sitting around, but I try to get her to do things and she is not interested. But says she is bored. How is best to handle this so she realizes this is not an option. She does nothing for herself. Now should I just tell her I will let her take care of everything for herself and see if she can and if she can let her get a house? (which will never happen) I'm just so tired of hearing the same thing all the time she expects me to sit right with her all the time. I can’t do that. I am 73 myself my husband is on in home dialysis so that takes some of my time. I feel like I have no time for me without having to tell her everyday she can’t live alone. If I show her maybe it will help (input)
I'd figure out what care she needs and make the arrangements. Do you have POA?
Transition your mom into a care community where she can be in assisted living (if she's able) or LTC. It doesn't mean you don't love her or care about her. It just means you are being realistic and wise. Help her apply for Medicaid if she doesn't have the financial means. At 73 you need to take care of yourself, especially since you are already caring for your hubby. I wish you peace in your heart as you think about this option.