Hi. I'm at the end of my rope with my dementia mother. I don't have any more patience, I'm burned out, fed up, and have no anything anymore. I feel like I'm in a living hell in my own house which doesn't even seem like my husband's and mine anymore. I feel like I have nothing left not even me. Ever felt like you've gone to the end and can't bounce back? My bounceback is used up and gone.
a great reputation! I think you really need to shop around and get as much info as you can best to go and visit and ask other families how they feel about the care?
I've been previewing some of the many facilities here in my area [northern Virginia here in the States] and what I have seen so far are clean well cared places. Some better looking than others, but with caring staff. Just planning ahead in case my parents can no longer care for themselves in their own house.
Ive just seen mums geriatrician he said she is still competent enough to do what she wants but that im not to worry she will get worse and placing her will be easier soon!!!!! Yeepee! i want my life back NOW!
And in fact with my age, my health issues, and having zero training in caregiving, I wouldn't even have a chance in being hired by an agency to be in that line of work. I need to keep reminding myself when and if the time comes where my parents think I should physically care for them.
Some how, some way, my parents will need to move into a facility that has 3 eight hour shifts of caregivers, or hire 3 shifts to help at home.... caregivers that when their shift is done, they go back to their life.... caregivers that get sick leave, and vacation leave... and are fresh on the job every day they work.
We need to do what is best for our parent(s)... and being in a house with someone who has had no training, no patience, no energy, and a lot of sleepless nights, that is not in the parent(s) best interest.
I rather pay higher taxes if said taxes would go for the caring of ALL seniors that need help... either at a nice nursing home or with in-home care using professionals.