So he knows usually how to get up and go across his room to the bathroom the whole thing . But once in a while he gets up looks down the hallways for family or circles in room and then just goes in a corner or looks for something to pee in like a vase ? I take care of him 3 hrs a day but not there when he dies this so I’m trying to find tips to help them deal with this and why this may happen ? He is 72 and has dementia . Also at senior center he keeps to himself but tells us he is having a great time talking with others .. even just has stayed outside and didn’t go in ? Never dealt with these issues so not sure what to do thanks in advance if you have any suggestions
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Has this gentleman had a UTI check lately? You mentioning that this is new behavior for him makes me wonder if he could have a bladder infection causing both more confusion and also more frequency and urgency of urination.
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Thanks for being responsive to our suggestions and making comments.
Has this gentleman had a UTI check lately? You mentioning that this is new behavior for him makes me wonder if he could have a bladder infection causing both more confusion and also more frequency and urgency of urination.
I see you out on Forum already answering others. I love that.
So again, welcome.
Perhaps it would benefit you more to educate yourself more about this horrific disease of dementia, so you will be better prepared for what lies ahead.
And while putting up signs may help early on in ones dementia journey, this man sounds too far along and I'm sure is not able to read anymore or comprehend the written word.
So best to just have whoever is with him to take him by the hand and lead him to the bathroom and put him in front of the toilet.
Or you may have to do what I did with my late husband and he began making pee messes around the toilet because he only had use of one arm and he had essential tremors in it, so pee would go outside of the toilet, so I made him sit down every time he had to use the bathroom. He didn't like it at first, but eventually got used to it and it became second nature.
And of course there will come a time when he will have to wear adult diapers, and may already be there, and this issue that is a problem now, will no longer be one, and it will be on to the next issue.
Dressing him in an anti strip suit with a Depends underneath will prevent nighttime urinary accidents on the carpet. You can find the suits on Amazon.
This gentleman should be ushered inside the senior center to make sure he's safe. Whether he engages with others isn't really relevant. He's out and about but should not be left unattended outside the room the activities are taking place.
Understanding the Dementia Experience by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller is a wonderful book available on eBay or Amazon to help you and his family understand dementia from HIS perspective.
Best of luck to you.
The other issues at the senior center are not abnormal dementia behavior.
For other suggestions, you might try looking on YouTube for Teepa Snow's videos for caregiving loved ones with dementia. She has lots of videos that are very helpful.
His brain is no longer capable of functioning in any normal way.
Behaviors are random and unpredictable and do NOT MAKE SENSE, so that a person who is fully functioning brain-wise can not come up with anything that might work.
Certainly, if this is someone you work with you can see many OTHER instances in which this gentleman's brain is no longer capable of functioning?