To whom have you given care for 40 years? Or are you saying that you are a caregiver for your husband now, and that you were married to him for 40 years? What question do you have? If you are specific with your questions we may be able to help. Under general advice I would say it is important for you to assess, to know, how long you can do hands on care for your husband. This will depend of a whole lot of things we cannot know, and each individual case is as unique as our own thumb prints. Welcome to Forum, Lily.
My husband has had dementia for at least 2-3 years before he was diagnosed in 2009. I am whipped. Can't imagine what your situation is but you take the prize.
I finally retired my Superwoman's costume and arranged for dementia daycare. But because this facility only provides this service weekdays I'm currently working on submitting an application, to include medical and financial information, (btw, getting this stuff together is a big job) with another daycare/assisted living facility that offers daycare on weekends too.
The plan is that he will continue to go twice a week to one and once in a while on a Saturday or Sunday to the other.
This new application and additional supporting documents will stay valid by having him attend at least one day a month. This is very important in case I suddenly need surgery, respite or, if I had the means, a vacation. He will be permitted to transition to full time care for as long or short as I need and I wouldn't have to scramble at a time that I may not be able to manage applications, TB tests, and admission manager's interviews and accessments, etc.
This is one of the ways I take care of myself. Peace of mind.
I'm not sure if you have a question or not, but 40+ years is a long time to be a caregiver. Your profile says you're caring for your husband. Have you been his caregiver for 40+ years? I was a caregiver for my husband for 24 1/2 years and I thought that was a long time. I hope you're taking good care of yourself. Please come back to let us know if you have any specific questions.
What question do you have? If you are specific with your questions we may be able to help.
Under general advice I would say it is important for you to assess, to know, how long you can do hands on care for your husband. This will depend of a whole lot of things we cannot know, and each individual case is as unique as our own thumb prints.
Welcome to Forum, Lily.
I finally retired my Superwoman's costume and arranged for dementia daycare. But because this facility only provides this service weekdays I'm currently working on submitting an application, to include medical and financial information, (btw, getting this stuff together is a big job) with another daycare/assisted living facility that offers daycare on weekends too.
The plan is that he will continue to go twice a week to one and once in a while on a Saturday or Sunday to the other.
This new application and additional supporting documents will stay valid by having him attend at least one day a month. This is very important in case I suddenly need surgery, respite or, if I had the means, a vacation. He will be permitted to transition to full time care for as long or short as I need and I wouldn't have to scramble at a time that I may not be able to manage applications, TB tests, and admission manager's interviews and accessments, etc.
This is one of the ways I take care of myself. Peace of mind.
I was a caregiver for my husband for 24 1/2 years and I thought that was a long time.
I hope you're taking good care of yourself. Please come back to let us know if you have any specific questions.