Looks like I am gonna have to move my Aunt from her private room in assisted living to memory care.
There is the possibility that my Aunt will have to be in a shared room with a complete stranger.
Wondering if anyone has had the same situation and if so, how did your LO handle it??
One problem was that one of the residents would yell about random stuff that didn’t really make sense and could be unsettling to my mom. She ended up getting used to it and ignoring it.
For privacy, we strategically placed a dresser with her tv and photos of all of her family to where it doubled as a room divider. This really helped mom (and us) feel like she had her own space.
I usually washed all of mom’s clothes myself, but markered her name onto all her labels in case they beat me to it.
Ultimately I liked mom having a roommate because they’d alert the staff if the other had an issue. Also they didn’t feel so isolated and alone.
God bless.
My Uncle passed in October. They were married 63 years!
Thanks!!
after a while all 26 of the memory care residents are no longer strangers. They are friends and family members.
There were many lovely residents and staff who became like a second family to Mom. I hope your Aunt will have an easy adjustment to Memory Care living.
My MIL was never overjoyed with her roommates. But this is the woman who refuses to get out of bed and has a bad memory, so not sure her opinion is accurate. If your LO tells you any stories of bad behaviors you will need to follow-up on them as best as possible. The stories may or may not be true.
And I just realized I left the care off of memory care! Lol
My mom was always in the main room, where the TV and all the memory residents mingled. The aides controlled the programs, which were usually videos they put in that were fun. It seemed that most enjoyed being around others, even if they didn't say anything. No one had their own tv.
After talking to several people at her ALF we decided to try the shared room. Not my first choice, but because her ALF is private pay only , she likes the people and the food and the fact that she will run out of money in aprox 5 years in a private room I have to give it a go. She still adamantly refuses to leave her son!! She doesn't remember that he's in a homeless shelter, but she remembers that she still close to where he is. Ugh!
I need all the prayers I can get for my Aunt to settle in and be content.
Thank you all for your support!!
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