My mom complained on Friday her jaw hurt and Saturday her jaw was swollen. She is on hospice and has been on pain meds force about 7 weeks. That same week she told me a story and found out it wasn’t true. My brother and his wife are drama…he wants to sue and “own” that NH. I don’t believe for a second she got hit because first off there is no bruising, she has just made a claim that wasn’t true, she’s on meds and our hospice nurse said it’s an absessed tooth! I don’t know what to do…if I don’t handle this right my brother with whom I share POA will want her moved and so that entails a new facility and move hospice care…she’s within weeks of passing and I may just tell him if we move her HE and his drama can do it themselves. I have been her caregiver for the last 2.5 years by myself with little of no help and of course there’s $$$ on the horizon sooooo….I pray she passes soon because she is miserable and I’m tired of having to manage and this added drama has about pushed me over the edge…oh yeah…I start a new contract job next week! HELP ME LORD!
If he wants to speak to a lawyer, he has to provide evidence of misconduct. I will bet he has none. I highly doubt this case will be taken.
When you become executors, and thinking ahead of potentials, you can tell him you are not interested and push to continue division of assets. Tell him that you will hire your own lawyer so prepare a contract that you have no interest into his lawsuit claim. Then he can spend his own inheritance on his legal chase.
And though he was on very strong pain meds 24/7, he was STILL in pain.
Stiff and unbending from the Parkinson's, it was a 3 person effort to get him in the car to transfer him to the dentist--who just pulled the offending tooth. No way could he have 'sat' through a complete root canal and the subsequent crowning of the tooth.
Trying to keep his oral hygeine up was difficult, to say the least. I think mom was so overwhelmed by his general condition she probably didn't have him brush daily and certainly no flossing.
Let brother deal with this. It's HIGHLY unlikely that mom was struck by a nurse.
Doesn't he get that insitgating a lawsuit at this point in mom's life is just going to make for a lot of trouble you just don't need or want. Maybe he's angry that mom is dying and he is putting all his energy in this 'lawsuit'?
Care of the dental issue MAY be in the same balance.
Antibiotics and specific care may still be considered “extreme circumstances” based on specific information that OP hasn’t mentioned.
If you have a dentist, beg them to come help your mom. Left untreated it could cause unneeded suffering.
Your brother, not sure what to say. If there is an abscess he should be able to see it. My husbands were always a pimple on the gum. Moving Mom at this point is not wise. Its really not fair to her.
I thought it might have been a sinus infection at 1st because you couldn't see anything in my mouth.
Thank God for good dentists, he saw right away and had me on the mend the same day.
Reducing drama & stopping Mom from being moved at this delicate time hopefully is.
Keep in mind the POA dies with your mother, then the PR steps in. If it is him you will have enough drama to last a lifetime.