My brother and I have been sharing the duties of giving my mother her meds every day. We understand the importance of routine and try to keep it the same everyday, however on occasion we have to switch our schedules due to work, etc..
We understand that being consistent is important but feel that she would prefer that he do all of her meds morning and night. If that makes her feel safe we both will do what it takes but how can i contribute to the daily routine if she does not want me there? I try to not take it personally as I know this part of the disease. It's not fair to him to have carry the entire load. I tried to explain to her why sometimes I'm the one who has to be there instead of him but I don't think she quite understands. How do we handle this?
My suggestion: Have your brother gently tell her that the arrangement between siblings works for him. Have him ask her for help in allowing the medication task to be shared between the two of you.
If it were me, I'd add a special moment to my time with Mom. Give her a massage, manicure/pedicure, or just lotion up her hands doing a hand massage. Make the time you spend with her special and not so clinical. Sometimes it is OK to baby our elderly. When she's gone, you'll wish you had made every moment count. Every good memory is a gift.
How nice that you can work together. Blessings to you both. And Mom:))) xo