My 71-year old mother lives at an upscale independent living community. Most of the residents are much older than her but she has mild/moderate Parkinson's Disease, as well as mild cognitive impairment (executive functioning, planning, dates, etc.). She goes out of her way to get along with all of the residents but lately has been openly bullied by one particular 90-year-old woman who thinks she owns the place. This makes my mother extremely anxious and distraught to the point where she feels physically worse than normal. She also is scared to go to dinner in the dining room (which is where most of this bullying takes place). My question is, do I get involved and contact the management of the facility? My mother is extremely against this. She doesn't want anyone else to dislike her. I'm not sure what the management could do about it anyway? I feel like I'm in high school again! Any advice? Thank you
We chicken keepers learn a thing or two about the pecking order and how cruel it can get. I love all my hens equally, but I don't ever expect them to be fair to each other. It's always the cutest one who gets the hard time. Be your mother's champion. x
Either that or confront the woman yourself and tell her to her face that she's a vicious old hag… No. Fun idea, but better to contact the professionals. And meanwhile teach your poor mother some interesting new words to use in self-defence? Hope it gets sorted fast. x
If this woman in bullying your mom, she's probably bullying others too. The staff need to be made aware so they can distract the bullier. Or tell her to knock it off. Your poor mom! My mom was seated with some women she wasn't crazy about, but would never ask to be seated with a different group. It drove me nuts because I had to listen to her complain/whine about it. I offered to contact the facility, but she also refused to have me do it. But it wasn't a bullying situation, or I would have stepped in.