My 95 year old Mom's dimentia is getting worse every day, she' s fallen several times and she convinced herself that the assisted living home I chose is someplace she's staying for a short time. I have tried to explain that she is not safe being alone for even a short time but she's not accepting this. She has lived with me and my husband for 12 years. Should I let her believe she'll only be there for a short time for now? She is already really anxious, when should I explain that this is where she will be living? She will be going there in 5 days. Please help!
My mom was recently very anxious that she couldn't stay in the NH and would have to be finding a new place. In her case we assured her that she had a contract, she was paying monthly, and there was no need to be concerned about needing to leave.
Play it by ear. Phrase you answers in a way that will be most calming to Mom.
Some of the AL workers also told me it would be a lot harder on me then it would be for my mom......that part was true.....I was upset the first few days knowing I had placed her in AL. It wasn't guilt.....I felt sad.....but my mom has adjusted well and made a couple of friends! I'm very pleased! A heavy weight has been lifted off my chest.......for now, at least, I can relax knowing she's being taken care of, she likes her room, she's getting three meals a day, medications, etc. I have my mom/daughter relationship back....when I visit her (1-2 times a week) it's enjoyable.....Yaah!
Keep your chin up Palmee! Hopefully, your mom will adjust and love her new space.....take care! Give us an update at some point......