She will fight us and hate us. My mother is very independent and will probably disown me and my sister if we try and take her car keys away from her. At her last doctors appointment the doctor said she was going to report her that she didn't need to be driving. Our mothers mood changes day to day, or hour by hour. She can be down right hateful at times. She cant manage her finances or remember to take her medication. My sister is now living with her to help out and every other day she tells her to get out that its her house and she doesn't need any ones help. There are days she makes us angry and days she hurts our feelings she will pick a fight with us and cuss us out. This is why we are looking for answers on how to deal with all this.
If those accidents were the results of other driver's negligence, than an older person should be able to drive if they can get from point A to point B safely with a clear calm mind.... don't forget that young people get into their fair share of accidents, too.
Otherwise, if your Mom stops driving, guess who takes up the slack? You do. I've been driving my parents for the past 5 years, and now I truly hate driving. Never did I realize that my parents liked to get into the car and go places 2 to 3 times a day. Since I work, it was always difficult to schedule time to drive as I had to use my vacation days and sick days... by the times I needed those days, none were left to use.... [sigh].
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Generally, if a doctor tells you not to drive, your license is suspended until he has cleared you. You could also report Mom to her insurance company.
The safest and fastest way to stop her is to simply borrow her car while yours is in for repairs, and just don't bring it back. Realize that you cannot reason with dementia or a drunk. Neither one can process the information. Sure she will get mad, but you tell her, truthfully, that her license is suspended and if she gets in another accident, the other party can sue and win. Is it worth it to lose her house and savings?
( I'm Sorry rovana about your sister)