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Has she been seen by a geriatric specialist and evaluated? There is medication which can help with delusions. The cognitive test in the doctor's office may not be sufficient. Mother was having delusions but scored well enough on the cognitive test. In fact she was in early stage vascular dementia.

I agree she should be checked for a UTI.
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Pandabearmama Mar 2023
Thank you, I’ll look into this
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Has she been checked for a UTI?
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Your situation sounds similar to mine. I am new to the whole extended caregiving thing. My Mom is also out of state and she constantly complains that she needs help. Every time I reach out to 'try' to help it winds up costing me more money than I can afford, and nothing ever really gets accomplished. I finally got her to a nice facility that provided skilled nursing, and she is anxious, depressed, and needs more help. There are plenty of people around her able to provide the assistance that I'm unable to give, but she is biting at them too. My fear is that she's creating her own personal hell and will never settle down. She has a strong will to power, and this won't work in a place where she needs to let them help her. I also run a business from home that consumes most of my day, so taking her in would ruin my life. Of course she has no support network where she is, and I'm the only person that can help her. I've only really gotten involved in her care for about 4 months, but she could live a dozen more years! I'm already feeling the weight and this journey is just beginning.
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Pandabearmama Mar 2023
That’s what my mom does, strong willed, always fighting. I hate it. The only way I could get my mom to a nursing home would be in a straight jacket drugged.
I think my mom will outlive me. She’s in great physical health, not mental. So sad it’s like that. For you, I think you’re doing the right thing allowing the facility to take care of her needs. I only wish I could have some peace of mind and get her into one as well.
thanks for sharing
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