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She moved into a new assisted living facility yesterday. They want me to handle this. I don't know what I can do as two minutes after I leave she won't remember I was there. I can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do. Any suggestions?
I'm a little surprised that Memory Care finds her behavior odd. Many dementia patients have difficult behavior. Resisting, agitation, etc. are common in Memory Care units. They are trained to handle that kind of thing on a daily basis. They know how to redirect and tolerate the behavior, while trying to engage her in ways that will make her more accommodating and content.
I think I would talk with the director and see if the team can meet and discuss it. She may need some medication. You say all she is taking is a vitamin. It might be challenging, but if they can get her on a good med, it might help her feel much better and she wouldn't be so uncooperative.
I have seen how the right medicaitons can have a huge impact on the dementia patient. She may need something to calm her anxiety. A daily med for that might take just a few days to provide improvement. I would certainly discuss it with her doctor or a geriatric psychiatrist.
I know what it's like to get daily phone calls reporting dementia behavior and wanting you to do something about it. The first place my cousin was placed, they would call me at work if she reported she couldn't find her hairbrush! I'm not kidding. It became obvious, they were not able to care for her and I don't think they really tried. Anyway, now that she is in Memory Care, they take care of her. I don't get a call for every little thing. And there have not been any significant issues. I hope you can get her someplace that is able to meet her needs.
Yes, my mom is in memory care. I am going to see her this morning and see if I can assist the staff. I have decided to tell the staff not to make her do anything she doesn't want to do. I found out the "medication" she will not take is a vitamin. I am just feeling a bit frustrated with the staff. This is a new situation for her and I am sure she will adjust to the change, they just need to give her time. I apologize for the venting. I was sincerely hoping I had found a place she would be safe and well taken care of so I could have a day off.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I think I would talk with the director and see if the team can meet and discuss it. She may need some medication. You say all she is taking is a vitamin. It might be challenging, but if they can get her on a good med, it might help her feel much better and she wouldn't be so uncooperative.
I have seen how the right medicaitons can have a huge impact on the dementia patient. She may need something to calm her anxiety. A daily med for that might take just a few days to provide improvement. I would certainly discuss it with her doctor or a geriatric psychiatrist.
I know what it's like to get daily phone calls reporting dementia behavior and wanting you to do something about it. The first place my cousin was placed, they would call me at work if she reported she couldn't find her hairbrush! I'm not kidding. It became obvious, they were not able to care for her and I don't think they really tried. Anyway, now that she is in Memory Care, they take care of her. I don't get a call for every little thing. And there have not been any significant issues. I hope you can get her someplace that is able to meet her needs.
Does this facility have a wing for memory care? Do they think she belongs there?
My heart goes out to you. This is so stressful!