Mom is 92, a peach during the day but at night but has severe sundowning and walks the halls, enters others rooms, bangs on doors, writes on walls, wanders outside and occasionally is naked. Belligerent. She has no recollection. Facility is not equipped to manage her. A friend mentioned music which I will try, but the fact is I have to move her for the 5th time in four years to a memory care and there are only two in the area. Both are full and I am at my wits end. The facility is setting up a NPI interview which may help fast track her into one of the facilities if a bed becomes available. I am in the process of getting mom enrolled in Medicaid (she has no money). The facility has sent me a 30 day notification of removal. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated!!
Have you talked to the doctor who manages her medications about her behavioral challenges and the fact that she's may need to move? I think a change or adustments in meds is in order.
On the 30 day notice, there should be a CC at the bottom of the letter. Usually it gets CC to a probono legal aid, you might want to contact them as to any suggestions for placement.
If realistically you cannot find a new place and mom has worn out her welcome in any other facilities, AND if you do NOT come to get her, the MC will likely contact APS… then APS will seek an emergency ward of the state action for mom. So mom becomes under the purview of the guardian (judge usually assigns an atty or other professional guardian vetted by the state). Sometimes this can be best as they can find a spot for her and take care of filing Medicaid. If this happens, it does not have to be contentious between you and the court appointed guardian. Perhaps view APS and the guardian as being able to do what you cannot as they have all the resources of the State to use. If there has been no financial misappropriation that would be an issue for mom’s Medicaid eligibility, having her become a ward of the state may be something for you to think about.
Her going naked probably is the tipping point for the MC. Has there been any discussion on changing her wardrobe? There are clothing lines that are “adaptive clothing”, basically clothing they can’t get out of them…. They get called “anti-strip” or “stay dressed”. Silverts Clothing & Buck & Buck carry them.
Ward of the state.....yikes, don't know if I can do that. But when the time comes you do what you gotta do. I'm meeting with the facility director tomorrow and float that by him.
Thanks for the clothing info.
She was on hospice at the time. Hospice recommended a much smaller care home that take those that have been kicked out. That care home worked better for mom and would have been better for her from the beginning. And it was cheaper than the large corporation memory care.
Best wishes to you, this is hard.
If she can walk well she should have a daily course of walking. Eat no sweets and a B supplement. I recommend Puritan Pride They make their own and are pure. Let everyone know so others can benefit
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What are you talking about ?
Be careful - VERY CAREFUL - making blanket statements.
Whatever you do ... do not take her home with you!
Keep looking and know that the deadline for her removal is flexible, especially if you're truly looking for a place for her.
I don't really understand facility trying to help you fast track her into one of the local facilities while, at the same time, serving documents to boot her out. Appeal. And submit copy of the appeal to your Ombudsman's office, too.
You might also ask the facility doctor to see about meds that might quiet her activities at night. It's very possible there is something for sleeping that might make things better and stay where she is.
How is current facility being paid for if she has no money and has no Medicaid. Did facility keep her and her midnight raids as long as she could pay and THEN decide it was time to move on when they knew the funds were depleted? If so, mention that in your appeal - she has been doing this for XX number of months and acceptable to facility as a self pay patient. Ironic it is no longer acceptable at the same time money ran out and would need Medicaid.
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