Mom has vascular dementia and is in Assisted Living. She wakes every morning in a panic because she doesn't know where she is, how she got there and why she is there. She barely recognizes her furniture, paintings and photographs in her rooms. When she does, it's not a comfort to her like it once was. She has these moments of panic and fear whenever she's not engaged in activities. We are averaging 30 phone calls a day to me, mostly asking where she is and why she's there. Now she is refusing to change her clothes, remove her hearing aids or sleep in the bed because she "doesn't know where she is." I'm thinking, what she's really saying is I don't know who these people are and what's going to happen, so I don't want to make myself vulnerable by being in pajamas or falling asleep. How can I comfort her when her memory loop is only 3 minutes long?