for the past two weeks and told me this evening that she feels she is dying, I fear she may be from the vtec and pulmonary hypertension, should I answer?
She does not stay on the subject, I believe that God will take you on his time not the time of what doctors say.
What do you think?
If, like you, you Mom is a person of faith you can kind of smile as though the thought never occurred to you and say "Only God knows that Mom, for either of us, but are you uncomfortable? Is there something I can tell the doctor about what you are feeling? Is there a reason you feel this way? Is there something I can do, or something you want to tell me? I know you are not feeling well. " If she responds to you that she is afraid, reassure her with what the two of you believe about faith.
Be guided by what SHE wants to speak of. Don't give her any of this "go toward the light" stuff at the end. My fellow nurse friend said this to her brother at the end and he looked at her with horror, like "what-the-heck! Am I DYING!!" I as a nurse have come to see this as a no-no. Let the person tell you what they feel, what they experience, what their hopes and fears are.
Something I often saw toward the end was people seeing friends and family who passed some time ago. They often began to feel happy/relieved at that point.
Is hospice involved at this time? That may be prudent to consider if not, as they can be very supportive to both you and your mom now.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation. Sending you a hug and a prayer for courage and strength.