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If you mother needs Medicaid in the next five years, there is a look back and that will cause more issues than either of the siblings will have to deal with.
You don't mention if your Mother is a Medicaid recipient, so if she is, then this will be a problem.
I purchased my Mom's house in 2019 and went through a real estate attorney. We were advised to buy it for FMV (fair market value), which we did.
If your Mom needs to apply for Medicaid within the next 5 years (depending on what state she lives in the "look back" period differs), then this sale may cause a problem for her to qualify. If this becomes the case, then your sister will be paying for her care personally, or she may need to give up guardianship. Best to consult with an elder care attorney or Medicaid Planner for her state.
Regarding inheritance... again, you should pose this question to an elder law attorney. You may need to prove that your sister committed financial abuse/fraud against her mother as guardian by selling the house at such a low price, because this is NOT acting in your Mother's best interests.
If the house is sold before your Mom passes and the funds were allegedly used to pay for her care, then I'm not sure what you can do about it. Talk to a lawyer before too much time passes after the house sale. You will be paying for the consult out of your own pocket.
Yes, your sister needs to realize that if Mom ever needs Medicaid, or receiving it now, Moms house must sell for Market value. Any proceeds must go for Moms care. Medicaid will penalize Mom and then someone has to pay for her stay in a NH or care for her themselves until the penalty period is done.
A Will is only good if there is an estate. If Mom needs to liquidate her assets for her care, there is nothing to inherit. Wills are for "just in case".
While your mother is alive, any assets she has need to go to pay for her care. Persons named in a will are not entitled to an inheritance until the grantor is deceased. However, the guardian should not be selling her house at below fair market value. Guardians are required to file detailed financial reports and the court will not look kindly on selling the house at below market value. Selling to a relative is particularly problematic but would probably be OK if there is an appraisel and it can be demonsttrated that the sale is at or above the house's market value. In addition, if your mom is on Medicaid now or may be within the next 5 years, selling property at below market value could result in a penalty and delay in recieiving Medicaid.
Your sister could be in legal hot water if she sells your mother's house at a price significantly below its market value. Is she aware of that?
Also, if in future your mother needs Medicaid, it could affect that too.
But there are various ifs and buts before you can do anything effective to prevent the sale (if that's what you want) or insist on your brother's paying the correct price (if that's another option). Your mother may have dementia but that doesn't necessarily mean she didn't want your brother to have the house or isn't happy with this arrangement, for example. And then again, how much below its realizable value is he planning to pay? Are they in a hurry to make the sale because they need cash for your mother's care needs?
So - there are questions, but your sister may have acceptable answers. Ask by all means but focus on your mother's wishes and her best interests. I'm sure it's not the case with you but it looks ugly when all a person seems bothered about is inheriting as much as possible.
Please help your mom. And help your guardian sister, who probably does a lot for your mom.
Please don’t tell me you’re someone who does nothing to help, and waits around for inheritance.
In your question I don’t hear any concern for your mom, nor for your mom’s care, nor concern for whether sister is using the sale’s money appropriately for mom’s care. I only see: “I know she’s not dead yet, but what about my inheritance?”
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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IMO it is attorney time.
I purchased my Mom's house in 2019 and went through a real estate attorney. We were advised to buy it for FMV (fair market value), which we did.
If your Mom needs to apply for Medicaid within the next 5 years (depending on what state she lives in the "look back" period differs), then this sale may cause a problem for her to qualify. If this becomes the case, then your sister will be paying for her care personally, or she may need to give up guardianship. Best to consult with an elder care attorney or Medicaid Planner for her state.
Regarding inheritance... again, you should pose this question to an elder law attorney. You may need to prove that your sister committed financial abuse/fraud against her mother as guardian by selling the house at such a low price, because this is NOT acting in your Mother's best interests.
If the house is sold before your Mom passes and the funds were allegedly used to pay for her care, then I'm not sure what you can do about it. Talk to a lawyer before too much time passes after the house sale. You will be paying for the consult out of your own pocket.
A Will is only good if there is an estate. If Mom needs to liquidate her assets for her care, there is nothing to inherit. Wills are for "just in case".
Hopefully if they try, the atty will set them straight.
Also, if in future your mother needs Medicaid, it could affect that too.
But there are various ifs and buts before you can do anything effective to prevent the sale (if that's what you want) or insist on your brother's paying the correct price (if that's another option). Your mother may have dementia but that doesn't necessarily mean she didn't want your brother to have the house or isn't happy with this arrangement, for example. And then again, how much below its realizable value is he planning to pay? Are they in a hurry to make the sale because they need cash for your mother's care needs?
So - there are questions, but your sister may have acceptable answers. Ask by all means but focus on your mother's wishes and her best interests. I'm sure it's not the case with you but it looks ugly when all a person seems bothered about is inheriting as much as possible.
Please don’t tell me you’re someone who does nothing to help, and waits around for inheritance.
In your question I don’t hear any concern for your mom, nor for your mom’s care, nor concern for whether sister is using the sale’s money appropriately for mom’s care. I only see: “I know she’s not dead yet, but what about my inheritance?”