The ALF where my mom lives has given me 45 days to move my mother out. They said that her level of care has changed and they can not have her there anymore. Mom has dementia and I am afraid to tell her ahead of time because certain things she does remember and I am afraid that she will think that she is moving back home. She does accept my explanation that she is in ALF because her Dr. does not want her living alone anymore due to her memory problem and that her house has steps. As it stands now I have asked her church friend to take her out to lunch the day of the move and to bring her back to the new AFL place. If my mom questions me why she has been moved I plan on telling her that her Dr. does not think that her medications were being managed very well where she was. Am I handling this the right way?
Might seem like going overboard, but might even get some cupcakes, small snacks and festive party tableware and invite staff to her new apt a day or so after her arrival to make her feel special and welcome.
I hope it works out. So hard to have to put these elders thru so many changes.