Her vital signs are stable. The only thing is her oxygen levels are low. I was told she might not live through the night. She was unconscious. Now she goes in and out. Asked where she was and why she was in hospital. I was so hoping she was going to die. And I believed she was. Now she might live. And I'll have the same stress and more because of maybe hospital bed in living room, etc.
Hoping now, that every day brings you something to be more joyful and appreciative about. You deserve better for you!
Get in touch with the office, and get something for you. You. You. You. If you are calm, and the doctor can put you together, you're going to be able to cope.
If you continue in panic mode, all you're going to do is CRASH AND BURN.
We don't want that to happen.
Take ♥ care ♥ caregiver ♥so ♥ that ♥ you can ♥ give ♥ care ♥
♡♡♡M88
Barbara
Call the hospital social worker tomorrow and tell them that if mom survives this bout of pneumonia, they should know if advance that she can't return home since neither she nor your brother will allow outside caregivers in easily and that this may have led to her recent decline. And that you are interested in, if she lives, getting her into a good nursing home.
Mom's assets are in a special needs trust for your brother, yes? If her income is too high for Medicaid, you may need to visit an eldercare attorney to create a Miller Trust to put the overage into a pooled income trust each month. Google Miller Trust.
You can do this, honey. Hugs and good thoughts for you and mom!
How wide is the door to the room? Where are the electrical sockets? What's the distance from the front door to the room you plan to use as the bedroom, precisely?
What I'm getting at with those and countless similar questions is that the people who are going to set up support for in home care for your mother NEED to liaise with the person who is at home. Whether he likes it or not. Yup - over to your brother. Meanwhile, you should be working on your anxiety and ask your husband to take you to visit your mother. I'm sorry she's landed in hospital, and I hope she's comfortable and feeling well cared for.
Take care of yourself. Let the professionals take care of your mother and deal with your brother. They'll cope.
Barbara
Got a call from hospital she was recommended for in patient hospice. Till they manage her symptoms and send her home. With in home hospice. If she gets accepted that is.