We had a meeting with Hospice yesterday, her DR ordered the meeting because she has lost so much weight and wouldn't get out of bed for weeks. Mom was talking to all of them and was seemingly coherent and as soon as they all left she started hearing voices and music again. She stayed up the night before asking me to turn the music off and saying someone is in the house. I just don't understand this, any ideas for me? My siblings help but then take off and I spend every night with Mom.
Before I knew it had a name and was common, it drove me nuts that whenever my sisters saw my husband he was "fine."
A month after the onset of his dementia I had to be hospitalized on an emergency basis. With no prep or warning, our five kids took over caring for him around the clock, for a week. Believe, there was never a point after that that any of them thought I was exaggerating or that Dad wad "fine."
If at all possible, people to whom it is important to understand the real situation should spend extended time with the person who has dementia. A visit of a few hours or a phone conversation just isn't enough to get past the showtiming.
She was like her old self for a couple days and very specific about what she wanted to eat. (2 shrimp, radishes and carrots) This is so strange to me...now won't get up.....thank you again for listening and helping me understand more about this strange behavior. One day at a Time!!!!!
As for the voices and music she is having delusions...it's another part of dementia? Has your mom had a diagnoses? If she has maybe find out from her doctor what they think she has? Its helpful to know more about what you are dealing with...google Teepa Snow she is a nurse that gives excellent advice on the care for a dementia patient. You can learn a lot about the disease too? Maybe see some symptoms of what you see in your mom. Good luck...I know it's a hard journey. But just know we are here when you need to talk...we all know what you are going through. God Bless
I understand how frustrating this is for you, mimialoha. At least you're finding out that you're not the only one this has happened to and that there's a name for it. When I was with my dad I'd get "Paranoid Dad" but when my brother visited he'd get the dad who could chat about books and movies and current events. I used to tell my brother, "I want YOUR dad!"