This has happened at least 2 to 3 times in the last year.She stands up fine at nursing home, but not at home! We are struggling to keep Mom home, but then she'll have a health issue and then go to hospital, and then to rehab. While at the rehab, she is getting PT everyday, she can stand up with only little help (she has to be watched because she's a fall risk), but when we get her home, she immediately reverts to being unable to stand up (like we have to lift her). Has this happened with anyone else's parents? I'm wondering if it's psychological....
Then when at home, I wonder if the relatives are helicoptering over Mom, telling her to be careful, don't do this or that. Thus her self-confidence fades.
We have to kind of yell because he's 90 and can't hear very well.
Refuses to wear a hearing aid or stand up straight.
He did better at the rehab, too.
Its like children who behave when they know an adult is watching and then as soon as they are alone they start to act up again. I'm not comparing your mom to a child but it could be that she feels like she can relax again when she is at home.
Also, let me add that sometimes I do think there is a psychological element to being around family, even if the person has dementia. My cousin is wheelchair bound, but is able to transfer from the chair to bed, car, etc. with the assistance of one person. However, I have noticed that when I stand nearby and she can see me, she has a very difficult time transferring. Getting her in and out of the transport van is almost impossible. So, I stepped away out of sight and she then was able to cooperate much more with the staff member who transports her. I'm not sure why, because her mental abilities are very impaired, but I do know that she does better when I'm not around. lol
If a doctor or anyone in a white coat tells my mom something, it's whole different story than if i do. You might want to consider assisted living, for just this reason.