Don't have a clue what is going on, but my Mom's eyes seem to be shrinking and they are scary looking. She glares constantly, along with her stare. It doesn't matter when you look up, she is staring or glaring, non-stop at me or my husband. My husband never says anything about her actions or what she does, other than her nosiness, but this glare we get every time we move is getting old really fast. Like I have said before, I thought old people, especially at 94, take lots of naps and sleep a lot. She went from the sleeping thing to the stare, glare thing. She never misses what you are doing or what you are carrying in your hand. Has anyone else experienced this or could tell me what is going on?? It really gets frustrating, considering all the other things that go on, too. I think I might be running on a short fuse, also, after 3 years, I am totally worn out! Plus, my husband has had to go away to work and will be gone 5 out of 7 days, and I have this all to myself, with NO help. Thanks!!
One more thing, I also crush Moms pills and make prune pudding to give them to her 2x daily. Some pills can NOT be crushed so ASK the pharmacist. Ones that are extended relief for one. My Mom takes a BP med and was on 100mg daily. It was the slow release one so in order to crush it for her I had to get the 50 mgs and give one in the morning and one at night. Please check on this anyone who is crushing, it can be extremely dangerous.
On the other hand, staring and narrowing of the eyes and a suspicious look often comes from confusion and the inability to understand and make sense of what they are watching you do. If you add in the tendency for paranoia, you can begin to understand why they're watching you like a hawk. They don't even understand the difference between you adding clothes to their drawers that you're trying to put away, or when you're taking something out of their drawers and away from them. When they get in that mode, I stop doing what I'm doing, sit down with them and strike up a conversation. If you stop doing certain things in front of them, they won't be giving you that penetrating stare anymore. I got to be an expert at hurriedly fixing up their things when they were in the bathroom with the door closed. It didn't even work to try to go into their bedroom when they were having a meal because they were questioning why someone was going in their bedroom and didn't like it. There are huge adjustments necessary on a daily basis to prevent causing undue anxiety in the dementia patient, that's for sure.