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She shoos me away when I try to help. Any suggestions for an easy front closing bra for a large bust that might be easier for her to get on and off? There are so many brands and some bras are just awful. She’s always worn an underwire type bra, usually Bali. We’ve gotten some bras online through Amazon and Macy’s but they all seem to be knockoffs of the real brands and don’t fit. I’m trying to help her be as independent as possible for as long as she possibly can be. Thanks for any suggestions.

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My mom was not large busted but we got to a point where she stopped wearing a bra. We decided on tank tops or camisoles, sometimes even T-shirt’s, under a button type shirt or house dresses. At your mom’s age is she still active and going out? I would think not too much especially in these covid times. If she is staying home maybe a bra is not necessary? Just my perspective and experience. Good luck.
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Bra wearers seem to fall into two categories:

1. People who put them on over their shoulders and over their bust first, then do the clip up at the back.

2. People who do them up around their waists, twizzle them round through 180 degrees, then put their arms through the shoulder straps and pull the straps up one at a time.

Which has been your mother's preferred style? If 1., could she be persuaded to try 2.?

I would strongly encourage you to encourage/support/assist continued bra wearing, especially in a fuller-figured lady, because keeping the fold of skin under the bust scrupulously clean and dry is very difficult and the resulting problems are made much worse if the skin surfaces are continuously pressed together. In ladies who really can't wear a bra even though they'd like to, for example because of shoulder injuries or recent pacemaker insertions, I search through their underwear (with permission, of course) for pure cotton vests or t-shirts and ensure that the natural fabric is tucked smoothly under the bust line just to keep the skin from getting stuck to itself.

There are two problems with front opening bras: 1. they are rarely underwired and so don't give the support your mother would be used to; 2. you need two strong hands to get them done up on a larger chest. There are both zip styles and hook-and-eye styles, but both present pinch hazards (yowch!), and both require a good deal of manipulation to get the cup comfortably around the breast. As I found yesterday after my client's otherwise terrific shower routine. She is in reasonable shape physically, but even so she wasn't able to get the leverage she needed to bring the two ends together. It took teamwork :)
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HilaryHilary Oct 2020
Yes, the cotton vest tucked under works really well when a bra can't be worn. Also, you can cut bras between the cups and stitch on velcro to fasten - a good diy solution that is easy to use.
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Why does she have to wear a bra?
Why not just a camisole with soft bra built into it or tank top unde her blouseor shirts.
Im 77 and that what I do..and no one seems to know the difference...why
Force a 95 year old to do ...but what she wants...
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Suetillman Oct 2020
Excellent idea. The camisole with the bra or just a camisole is the best solution. I’m 65 and wear them too because a bra is just uncomfortable.
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Here is the issue with the ‘pull over the head’ type bra for my mom. She has Parkinson’s disease and a rotator cuff injury with her shoulder, plus arthritis so mobility is a huge problem.

She could have never lifted her arms up high enough to put that type on. She can barely get a loose pullover shirt on.

Her range of motion is extremely limited. She did several rounds of home health and rehab with tons of physical and occupational therapy which did help some but not a whole lot as far as increasing her range of motion. It did build up a little strength and flexibility.

It’s awkward because mom has horrible balance due to her Parkinson’s disease so she is a high fall risk. She fell at the slightest feeling of being off balance.

It’s hard when there are mobility issues.
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Not necessary to wear a bra at that age. My 98 year old mother has not worn a bra for approximately ten years. She is more comfortable and you can't tell she does not have one on. I hate wearing a bra and will give it up when I am older. I don't wear one around the house way too uncomfortable.
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This is interesting. I had a heck of a time finding a Front Closure bra. I have arthritis in my hands (like everyone else) and on some days back closure was almost impossible.
I found that Layne Bryant has a nice front closure bra (lots of hooks though 7 on mine) but they are comfortable.
On line I did check out the one mentioned by leaonnie1 and I will have to try it on next time I go to Walmart. (less hooks)
there is no way I would ever be able to use one that pulled over my head and I have never been able to Hook it in front of you and pull it to the back and slip in your arms.
I recently had hand surgery and even the front closure is difficult now so I have been going "au naturale" and it reminds me of a joke I read...
A married man thinks he will give his wife a birthday surprise by buying her a bra. He enters a lingerie shop and rather intimidated the saleswoman takes charge.
What color she asks. He settles on white.
All that remained was the size and he did not have the faintest idea.
Now sir asks the sales woman are they the size of melons?, coconuts? grape fruit?
Oh no nothing like that he says
Come on sir there must be something that your wife's bust reminds you of.
He thinks long and hard then looks up and says...Have you ever seen a Cocker Spaniels ears?
sorry ...just had to include that!
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glendj Oct 2020
Loved it! Thanks for my laugh of the day ❤️
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No need to wear bra lo!
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My mother is also 95. We don't worry about her wearing a bra. If we go out, maybe put a bra on, but while relaxing at home-no bra.
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That’s me at 95 plus waterproof eyeliner.
I’d suggest that you look beyond the usual lingerie brands and look instead at the yoga / running wear stores. They carry all sorts of open front. Although they are not quite what most of us think of as a “bra”.
The top of the line imho is Lululemons Elite front close, it’s abt $100 but, but, but actually has 2 fully designed and separate cages for your girls, which most other brands do not. Hence the price tag. It’s phenomenal, lots of support in front & to your back as well. It doesn’t compress your tits totally; you still have profile to your breasts. & you can sleep in it comfortably if need be.

There’s also Yvette and Spring Seaon, they are both yoga running wear and carry front closure bras for bigger sizes. Yvette has a double decker one that layers the fabric so it looks more traditional bra. Their prices are less than 1/2 of lululemons. I’ve had my Elite 3 yrs and she’s still good, while the Yvette ones have been replaced. The less expensive ones do compress more ime.

For more bra type, look at Glamorize, theirs have front side hook & eye & slide in synchers. I’ve never bought from them, but it’s very old school bra design. At 95 she might not be ok for switching to active wear type of design on her bra.
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Holy cow, if I make it to 95 there's no bra for me! No way! But yes on the waterproof eyeliner! Or better, my mom got tattoo'd eyeliner a few years ago. Dark teal, with the perfect flick at the end. At 84, her eyes are badass!
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