Mom is 86 with early stages of dementia, high fall risk and very unstable. I am married, work full time and have been staying with her with her 6 nights a week for most of this year. Most of Mom's money has been spent on home caregiving (24/7 last year) and we now think it's time for assisted living. Seems like we might be putting the cart before the horse. Also, if we finance her AL costs, will we be reimbursed from the sale of Mom's home? Any advice is appreciated.
Get yourself an experienced Realtor who can help you put together a to-do list, wait for that loan to come thru (maybe doing some of the list as you wait), move mom into the ALF, finish the list lickity-split, and price mom's home realistically for a timely sale.
Good luck!