Dad is almost 92 and does not believe he has any issues. His short term memory is not there although he sometimes can remember a nugget. I read elsewhere on this site how the reasoning skills are gone long before the memory and this is the case with dad. Yet he continues to insist he is fine. He has always been independent and authoritative. He knows how much I love him and but is very upset that I have insisted he come here. He believes this is a temporary move but I can no longer care for him at home (he's lived with me for the past 11 years and I cared for my mom before her death for 3 of those years).
Dad is very social and I'm hoping he will quickly build some friendships that will help him in transitioning. We were unable to move his own furniture into his space for the initial move but did anyone find it helped to make the space look like his previous space and how did you make that happen? He is in a great facility and I will see him often and continue to take him out to places as makes sense but this is a new stage to me and I'm hoping to hear how some of you have made a transition like this with your mom or dad?
Don't push the river. You'll get there anyway.
If it is as good a place as you speak of, he will find a new life with cronies his own age & be delighted-let it happen naturally.
Having moved so many into assisted living after my assessment-I am an R.N.-I have found that many do well if there are familiar objects around them. I , myself am facing the same thing with my husband, who suffers from Solvent Dementia. I am attempting to keep him at home, in the house next to me (we have a guest house that I moved in to over a year ago,) for I could no longer live with his toxin's & choose not to have Solvent Dementia as he has. He was a painter all of his life & the fumes I can't tolerate & he can't even notice.
You dad sounds rather sharp & I do believe that once he adjust to his new home, & you continue to see him, he'll be ok.
Your a Saint in disguise.