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I'm addressing only the doctor selection of your question as well as and JoAnn's resource suggestions.
Since you're already in Florida, ask the doctors you're seeing for yourself. Some may not have recommendations for elder specific issues, but they might. We got recommendations from a top notch podiatrist, and they were always helpful.
I did find that female doctors in their late 40s or early 50s were very appropriate, not only for me but for my father.
Are you involved with any senior centers, or other activities that would allow you to know other participants well enough to rely on their recommendations? That might be an option as well.
Lastly, from a different viewpoint, FL is a haven for seniors. Although I've not done any research I would anticipate that there are a lot of doctors there to benefit from that. So I would do some research on medical governmental institutions in Florida that address medical malpractice, and locate doctors you DON'T want involved.
You could also accomplish something similar by online searching of court records (assuming that option exists) and note those who have been sued for malpractice, especially more than once.
On a related issue, check with your local Senior Centers to determine what activities might be available for those with short term memory loss. That might be a stretch, but it's worth a try. And the staff may know of senior resources that could help your mother.
In my area, some counties publish lists of senior resources, available not only through the county offices but through private companies. These range from medical facilities to legal offices, and often other related companies, such as transit and/or ambulance service for nonemergencies.
Memory loss is difficult to deal with, at least for me.
My mom lives with me and I would recommend that she NOT live with you. It's hard. The 24/7 of having someone in your house. Constantly dealing with the memory loss and weird conversations that go along with it.
I would ask around re doctors. I don't know if the Keys really have a lot of options so you might have to make the best of what there is and head up to Miami when you need better.
Has she been diagnosed with MCI or dementia or anything yet? If not, I would get her in with someone who does work on diagnosing these things. We're trying to get to the bottom of my mom's memory and confusion issues. They tested her B12, thyroid, changed/eliminated some meds that are common contributors to these issues, etc. Didn't make any difference or the results of blood work were fine.
Yes, I would not move her in with you. If she can afford it, find a nice Assisted Living. If she is in the first stage of a Dementia, her care is going to be more and more as time goes on. And its not fair to your son to need to care for both of you.
Call your County Office of Aging and see if they have a list of Drs. in the area. And any resources that Mom maybe able to use.
I'm adding what you have on your profile because I think it clarifies your question:
"Mom is having short term memory and gets worried about everything have my son helping too as I'm on disability."
How old is your mom? How old is your son? Please don't "assume" your son into this caregiving role -- he may not understand what he is signing up for -- as you and your mother age, the caregiving demands will become more and more intense and will likely overwhelm him. Read the posts on Burn Out on this forum, especially if you have a disability. It's one thing to move your mom close to you (and I agree with this) but it's a whole other thing to move her IN with you (if this is your plan).
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Since you're already in Florida, ask the doctors you're seeing for yourself. Some may not have recommendations for elder specific issues, but they might. We got recommendations from a top notch podiatrist, and they were always helpful.
I did find that female doctors in their late 40s or early 50s were very appropriate, not only for me but for my father.
Are you involved with any senior centers, or other activities that would allow you to know other participants well enough to rely on their recommendations? That might be an option as well.
Lastly, from a different viewpoint, FL is a haven for seniors. Although I've not done any research I would anticipate that there are a lot of doctors there to benefit from that. So I would do some research on medical governmental institutions in Florida that address medical malpractice, and locate doctors you DON'T want involved.
You could also accomplish something similar by online searching of court records (assuming that option exists) and note those who have been sued for malpractice, especially more than once.
On a related issue, check with your local Senior Centers to determine what activities might be available for those with short term memory loss. That might be a stretch, but it's worth a try. And the staff may know of senior resources that could help your mother.
In my area, some counties publish lists of senior resources, available not only through the county offices but through private companies. These range from medical facilities to legal offices, and often other related companies, such as transit and/or ambulance service for nonemergencies.
Good luck with your search.
My mom lives with me and I would recommend that she NOT live with you. It's hard. The 24/7 of having someone in your house. Constantly dealing with the memory loss and weird conversations that go along with it.
I would ask around re doctors. I don't know if the Keys really have a lot of options so you might have to make the best of what there is and head up to Miami when you need better.
Has she been diagnosed with MCI or dementia or anything yet? If not, I would get her in with someone who does work on diagnosing these things. We're trying to get to the bottom of my mom's memory and confusion issues. They tested her B12, thyroid, changed/eliminated some meds that are common contributors to these issues, etc. Didn't make any difference or the results of blood work were fine.
Good luck.
Call your County Office of Aging and see if they have a list of Drs. in the area. And any resources that Mom maybe able to use.
"Mom is having short term memory and gets worried about everything have my son helping too as I'm on disability."
How old is your mom? How old is your son? Please don't "assume" your son into this caregiving role -- he may not understand what he is signing up for -- as you and your mother age, the caregiving demands will become more and more intense and will likely overwhelm him. Read the posts on Burn Out on this forum, especially if you have a disability. It's one thing to move your mom close to you (and I agree with this) but it's a whole other thing to move her IN with you (if this is your plan).