I moved in with my mom 2 years ago while her Alzheimer's was progressing. In the past 6 months her cognition has declined. I still have my home in Florida which I rented but am at a point now where a move closer to my life is necessary. I have durable power of attorney but have been more than patient in trying to get her to leave her home. She is unable to live alone, her driving privileges have been revoked and her neurologist has provided a letter verifying that she is unable to live alone and requires 24/7 care. Any advice on how to get her to leave is appreciated.
Does she have any lucid moments? This would be the time to tell her that you are going to Florida and you want her to come or she can be placed in a facility locally if she doesn't want to move and be with you. But only do this if she is lucid.
I always think that it os harder for them to fight when it is presented as a done deal.
My father wouldn't have been fooled by a therapeutic fib, but if that will work for your mother it sounds like a humane thing to do...
In terms of literally getting her to FL, is it far enough away that you need to fly? You are perfectly legitimate to tell her a "therapeutic fib", like, you are going to visit someone (and the facility is a hotel). The facility admin will have advice for you as well. If you choose to care for her at your home, no judgments but just hope you embark on that journey with your eyes fully open. I wish you all the best and peace in your heart no matter what you decide!