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Growing up I remember mom dampening clothes to iron. If she didn't get to finish the ironing she would put the dampened clothing in the freezer! Anything to prevent dreaded black spots of mold! As someone said the clothing your mom feels may be cool to the touch so she "feels" dampness. Maybe that's what your mom is thinking?
Welcome to the wonderful world of dementia! Their sensory perceptions are off kilter many times, so your MIL is feeling like fabrics are wet when they aren't. Maybe hold a blow dryer up to the fabrics to 'dry' them out for her, see if that helps the situation; it may, then again, it may not. :(
*Here is a chat thread talking about wet clothing/ people complaining of their parent with dementia saying clothing or towels are 'wet' when they aren't. This can be a perception of COLD equating to WET in the mind of an elder with dementia and perception issues!
Dementia and/or dementia-like behavior is extremely difficult & frustrating to deal with, that's for CERTAIN! If you are going to take care of your MIL in home, you should learn all you can about dementia/Alzheimer's so you'll be prepared for what lies ahead.
I suggest you read this 33 page booklet (a free download) which has THE best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
Jennifer is a nurse who worked for many years as an educator and counsellor for people with dementia and their families, as well as others in caring roles. She addresses the emotional and grief issues in the contexts in which they arise for families living with dementia.
She also has published a workbook entitled, “It Isn’t Common Sense: Interacting with People Who Have Memory Loss Due to Dementia.” https://www.amazon.com/Isnt-Common-Sense-Interacting-Dementia/dp/1481995995/ref=sr_1_4?crid=2E7WWE9X5UFXR&keywords=jennifer+ghent+fuller+books&qid=1657468655&sprefix=jennifer+ghent%2Caps%2C631&sr=8-4
The 36 Hour Day is another excellent reference type book you can buy that will answer a lot of questions that crop up.
Teepa Snow also has videos on YouTube that are quite helpful, especially if MIL starts arguing about not wanting to take a shower/bathe, which is common with dementia. Teepa is a dementia expert with great and helpful tips for in home caregivers.
Lastly, do consider placement in a Memory Care Assisted Living community if and when MILs care becomes too much for you to handle at home.
Interesting. My mom is always checking the clothes in the dryer and thinking they are still wet where the rest of us are thinking they're fine. Following.....
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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*Here is a chat thread talking about wet clothing/ people complaining of their parent with dementia saying clothing or towels are 'wet' when they aren't. This can be a perception of COLD equating to WET in the mind of an elder with dementia and perception issues!
https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/threads/feeling-cold-and-wet.19884/
Dementia and/or dementia-like behavior is extremely difficult & frustrating to deal with, that's for CERTAIN! If you are going to take care of your MIL in home, you should learn all you can about dementia/Alzheimer's so you'll be prepared for what lies ahead.
I suggest you read this 33 page booklet (a free download) which has THE best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
Jennifer is a nurse who worked for many years as an educator and counsellor for people with dementia and their families, as well as others in caring roles. She addresses the emotional and grief issues in the contexts in which they arise for families living with dementia.
The full copy of her book is available here:
https://www.amazon.com/Thoughtful-Dementia-Care-Understanding-Experience/dp/B09WN439CC/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2E7WWE9X5UFXR&keywords=jennifer+ghent+fuller+books&qid=1657468364&sprefix=jennifer+ghent%2Caps%2C631&sr=8-2
She also has published a workbook entitled, “It Isn’t Common Sense: Interacting with People Who Have Memory Loss Due to Dementia.”
https://www.amazon.com/Isnt-Common-Sense-Interacting-Dementia/dp/1481995995/ref=sr_1_4?crid=2E7WWE9X5UFXR&keywords=jennifer+ghent+fuller+books&qid=1657468655&sprefix=jennifer+ghent%2Caps%2C631&sr=8-4
The 36 Hour Day is another excellent reference type book you can buy that will answer a lot of questions that crop up.
Teepa Snow also has videos on YouTube that are quite helpful, especially if MIL starts arguing about not wanting to take a shower/bathe, which is common with dementia. Teepa is a dementia expert with great and helpful tips for in home caregivers.
Lastly, do consider placement in a Memory Care Assisted Living community if and when MILs care becomes too much for you to handle at home.
Best of luck with a challenging situation.