Also, last night he was a bear, yelling at me and carrying on. He is frustrated with himself and it is starting to show-needless to say I am sleep deprived- but I will not put him in a home - the last time he was there he got pneumonia from being sedentary in bed-
All nursing homes aren't bad. Do you have choices? I know some parts of the country don't have many good choices, which is disgraceful, but true.
I'd get him to a doctor to see if medications can help him. There are some that do help many people with dementia. He seems to be showing some changes, so it's probably time for a checkup. In-home help may work or may not. If it does, you could get some sleep. Please talk with his doctor about your options, and also check your state's Web site under aging services.
Carol
Deanna
Christine, my sisters and I held off putting Mom in a care facility absolutely as long as we could but on November 1st of this year we did the deed. Now, almost two months later, we know we have done the best we could for her, ALL circumstances considered. I trust you will come to the same realization soon after your mom is placed in a nursing home. God bless.