My father's wife is the “responsible party” and we do not have a relationship. He fell and was hospitalized last week and I was not informed. His wife threatens that "she will not even tell me when he is dead!” I asked the memory care facility to add me also as an emergency contact so I can be informed when there is a medical emergency- and was told no, only if she adds me herself. Is this correct? It made me sick to see staples in his head and not even know he had fallen...so do I have any rights to be informed?