I’ve recently retired from working due to my own health issues, but decided to get my husband out of Nursing Home to care for him at home. Seems like I lost major support when I did that! His Dr wouldn’t cooperate with writing scripts for a lot of supplies my husband needed at home - especially his G-Tube feeding that costs $90.00 every 6 days!!! In short, I’ve used Rent money to care for him. Didn’t have ANY money to pay for September rent. Complaint was filed against us & I appeared in Court on 9/17/18. Since I had NO money to pay towards rent, payment arrangements could NOT be made. So, I’m sitting here crying, depressed, discouraged, going without necessary meds (lost my own coverage when I retired), about to lose my mind. I don’t know what to do! I’m doing a Volunteer Surrender of my car, because I can’t afford to keep up the payments or car insurance. And my SSA needs to help in caring for us, IF we’re able to keep the apartment. I can live with being without a car, but to be in the streets??? Oh my God!!!! There’s NO help. No one to borrow from because I can’t pay it back! I don’t have much time. October is right around the corner & September isn’t paid yet! I’ve never, ever been in this situation before & I’m frozen. Can’t seem to even put a plan in place. I’m scared...
Listen, my dear. If you have 2 grown sons, they absolutely need to step up. This is an emergency situation. No matter whose fault it seems to be, you need help. Are they going to sit by and watch football while their mom is in a homeless shelter? Tell them you need their help even if you have to sleep on their couch. They gotta wag their butts and help you guys out.
Where do you live? I have some G-tube food that may still be good and supplies (that definitely are) from someone I took care of that was able to get the tube removed. She just passed away a month ago, and I would love to be able to give these things away. I need to verify that food would be appropriate and not expired and if so, would send them at my expense. I really hope that this can work out!
When you have stabilized your finances and are sure your own health will allow you to properly care for your husband, please ask the nursing home social worker to help you plan a transition back home. She can help you with getting the prescriptions you will need or maybe refer you to someone who can help you develop a budget.
Depending on your own health issues, maybe you and hubby could share a nursing home room sometime soon.
In our city, we have an Emergency Assistance Center and I believe they provide shelter. There are also women’s shelters. Call your local Area Agency on Aging, Jobs and Family Services, Department of Human Services and anyone elae you can think of to beg for help. Get hubby into the NH. Hopefully he’s on Medicaid.
Good luck. Come back and let us know.
It might be true that I took on more than I thought I could handle, but I had to try. I won’t let my husband do without or suffer. If there’s no recourse, I will get him back in.