I am new to the forum. Mom has dementia and Dad denies having dementia but has been diagnosed with it. He is incredibly hateful to the in-home caregivers and to me. All of this happens around Mom. I am very concerned this is having an impact on her. She had a screaming episode right after he was very ugly to me on the phone.
I am in the middle of a guardianship battle with my Dad which is a strain on everyone. He can no longer take care of himself and in total denial. I have already been appointed Mom's guardian.
I am guessing he is in the early stages and Mom is probably mid-stage. Hers came on after a stroke 5 years ago. Mom is 89 and Dad is 90.
An UTI test is easy for Dad, he just needs to pee in a cup at the doctor's office. If Dad does have UTI, he will be given antibiotics. Hopefully that will clear up the UTI and Dad will chill out.
If it isn't a UTI, Dad probably is upset that this isn't the retirement he had planned for your Mom and himself. Getting old is tough. There are so many things that elder find very difficult to do. I would be grumpy, too.
I think our court date is going to be delayed so I am going to petition the court to bring Mom to Texas until the guardianship of Dad is resolved. I want to see how well Mom does without Dad around or will she be a huge problem.
Alvadeer, you may have a very good point, his moods swing so much, I have told the caregivers he is a box of cracker jacks, have no clue what you are going to get. There is a chance with proper medication Dad will settle down but currently he administers his own meds, which is another big problem.
It is so hard when you know someone needs your help and they flat refuse it.
Thanks,
Cindy
I wonder if that is an angle you can pursue, he needs someone to monitor his meds, its not safe for someone to be in charge of their own meds when they have problems with memory.
Being Guardian for one person is a huge responsibility. I might inquire from an attorney about options for your father's Guardianship. Sometimes, the court can appoint a professional person to be the Guardian. I'd inquire from an attorney your responsibility as a Guardian of someone who is acting out and resistant to care.