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You manipulate and trick them. Watch Teepa Snow videos on YouTube for pointers. Do you live nearby? Can you go and be there when the nurse comes? She could show you how to do the wound care (pretend) while allowing the nurse to actually do it. After she’s been there a few times he will possibly not mind her being there. You just have to prove to be poor at wound care and need more help.
My dh aunt had an ant bite from gardening. It got infected. She told me about it. I lived two hours away. I asked is it red? She said no. It was fine.(I was told later It was black). She picked at it with an old needle. She got MRSA. She had to have surgery. She has never gotten back to where she was mentally prior to the surgery. She had to have wound care from HH. The least of her problems at that point.
Its harder with your dad I realize. I had to push PT on my dad (and he didn’t have dementia). A cute therapist really helped. Plus he was happy to be mobile once again. You just do what it takes.
Tell the nurse not to take no for an answer. If she’s an experienced nurse she will have skills that will help. He’s not the first who didn’t want to see her. But she knows it will be ok once she gets in. You don’t know that. She’s had experience you haven’t had.
You could tell your dad you need to know this is taken care of. That it’s for you. Sometimes that works.
Some things we don’t really know will help them. We hope it does but it’s just wishful thinking in many cases. Wound care is pretty important.
To me it isn’t necessary for your father to agree about the dementia. If he has a primary doctor it’s a good time to do a Telemed appointment. Do you FaceTime with friends or relatives with him? It’s little more than that.
As long as the doctor sees your dad on the phone, the doctor can get the information from you and make recommendations. Take his bp, his temp, his O2 and pulse with an oximeter and weigh him. Depending on the doctor you may not need all of that.
My husband had one appointment where it was just a phone call.
For me, It’s never been easier to get a senior in front of a doctor than it is right now.
No he needs medical attention for a wound that is infected. He won't go to the VA or let a in home nurse cone for wound care. He wants to wsit two weeks. How can you make someone with dementia do something.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
He became cooperative only because he almost died.
I think that a lot of us have had to wait for the ER visit before we could get our loved ones medical care.
Does he know that wounds can become septic and kill you? I would be using that explanation as graphically as I could to scare the crap out of him.
Do you live nearby? Can you go and be there when the nurse comes? She could show you how to do the wound care (pretend) while allowing the nurse to actually do it. After she’s been there a few times he will possibly not mind her being there. You just have to prove to be poor at wound care and need more help.
My dh aunt had an ant bite from gardening. It got infected. She told me about it. I lived two hours away. I asked is it red?
She said no. It was fine.(I was told later It was black).
She picked at it with an old needle. She got MRSA. She had to have surgery. She has never gotten back to where she was mentally prior to the surgery. She had to have wound care from HH. The least of her problems at that point.
Its harder with your dad I realize. I had to push PT on my dad (and he didn’t have dementia). A cute therapist really helped. Plus he was happy to be mobile once again. You just do what it takes.
Tell the nurse not to take no for an answer. If she’s an experienced nurse she will have skills that will help. He’s not the first who didn’t want to see her. But she knows it will be ok once she gets in. You don’t know that. She’s had experience you haven’t had.
You could tell your dad you need to know this is taken care of. That it’s for you. Sometimes that works.
Some things we don’t really know will help them. We hope it does but it’s just wishful thinking in many cases. Wound care is pretty important.
If he has a primary doctor it’s a good time to do a Telemed appointment. Do you FaceTime with friends or relatives with him? It’s little more than that.
As long as the doctor sees your dad on the phone, the doctor can get the information from you and make recommendations. Take his bp, his temp, his O2 and pulse with an oximeter and weigh him. Depending on the doctor you may not need all of that.
My husband had one appointment where it was just a phone call.
For me, It’s never been easier to get a senior in front of a doctor than it is right now.