His daughter was given POA while in coma. My fiance lives in a nursing home now but is alert and awake. His daughter says I'm not welcome to visit him there because they don't like me, but we loved together and were together. It's obvious he wants me there but the nursing home makes me leave when I go there. This is so wrong but do they have power to do this?
Isolating a person just because a POA says so may be not acting in his best interest. For instance, if you were abusive and the daughter knew it, the daughter's actions make sense. If the daughter is refusing you just because she can, "they don't like me" [who is "they" and how does that matter?], then I'd notify Social Services or Department of Aging and file a complaint. Have them find out why the daughter's isolating her father and how that's in his best interest.
So I don't know what the situation is but I do know it's not that.
How long is it since your fiancé recovered from his coma?
Seems to me principle doesn’t want contact, but who knows.
Id be careful leaving your house unattended too long, but thats me. What stops her from removing all his & your stuff in your absence? Or locking you out of the house if it is in his name only. Maybe have a neighbor notify you if anyone shows up at your house. Or get a ring/camera.
She could also wipe out your joint checking/savings accounts from what I am reading about other posters on this forum. After the $ is gone you cant do much. I wouldnt keep much $ in there to be on the safe side. Seems even long standing spouses wishes can be run over by vindictive POAs!!!! Wow I didnt know that!!
I looked it up this issue and the lawyers on a forum said to call an elderly law attorney, Department of Elder Services, or Department of Social Services. You have to do this quickly. They said you cant wait.
I dont know how she can over ride his rights if he is talking and wants to see you.
Can you talk to fiance via phone? Let him know what is going on? I would think if he is verbal he can say who visits him or not. Is he just awake, or is he oriented and knows what is going on? The POA acts on his behalf when incapacitated.
He should be able to get an attorney or notary to come in and remove her. Got to talk to the lawywr 1st.
There are 4 types of POA. Find out which one she has. This goes over the types.
https://www.notarize.com/blog/types-of-power-of-attorney
Please let us know how that goes. I just realized this could happen to ANYONE even long standing married couples with step kids can have problems. The step kids from 1st marriages can rip the spouse away, and keep the other spouse in the dark about their whereabouts. Please keep us informed how it goes. Good luck!!!
and thereby my POA for her remains in effect until death or a miracle. The POA could have been voluntarily signed by him prior to accident. I prepare POAs for family and friends, not an attorney required document because it is signed voluntarily. My son has been in and out of relationships and he is well aware if anyone is in charge when he can't speak up its Mom. My daughter, brother, hell I made one for my ex husband. Ever since Terri Shriver in Florida was on life support for years with long court battle between husband and parents it has been noted the vitality of having a POA.
Or did the daughter always had the Power of Attorney and now she is doing her duty to abide by what is written in the said legal document?
You must be communicating with someone from the family or a family friend to know that your fiance is now alert and awake. Maybe give this time, the accident could have created medical issues that the family would prefer you not see.
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