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His blood pressure drops often and he falls easy. He gets angry, very angry and told me no one in the world could stop him to leave. Legally, what can I do to stop him?
If he’s considered mentally sound I’m not sure you can stop him from leaving assisted living. If he comes home you’ll have to decide how to respond to that. Do you have a friend or family member you can go stay with? You shouldn’t subject yourself to the anger, at all. With your own situation you aren’t able to help or even obligated to provide physical care, trying to pick him up from falls will be too much. Since he’s not willing to listen perhaps some time alone at home will prove to him that it isn’t doable for him to pull off this plan. I hope you’ll take care of and protect yourself
Is your husband physically and mentally capable of leaving the facility? He says no one can stop him, but could he pull off this move without assistance? Call movers, close out his AL account, arrange transport for himself, and move back home unassisted? If not, you probably don’t have too much to worry about in the very short term. But I would suggest consulting a lawyer to see what your obligations are if indeed he’s able to pull this off, and you cannot handle him at home. I concur with the suggestions that you seriously consider the possibility of you yourself moving to the assisted living facility. Would he stay if you were with him? Do you want to be with him??
This is an Assisted Living. Not sure if they would fall under the "safe discharge" thing. Their residents can come and go. If Dementia, they are usually in a lock down. Your a resident.
Maybe you should go into the AL and let him stay in the home.
Call Adult Protective Services to Have them Intervene. You need to Tell them you are Very Ill and your Husband as well, Is in No Shape But instead is Putting you BOTH in Harm's Way, In Caring for you and Himself. Get them up There and File a Report. You can Go from There, They Care...
Are you able to get a consult with an attorney? I'd find out my legal rights and how to stay safe. If he's a danger to himself or others, there should be legal options.
It sounds to me like he already came home. I agree with others who say you should move to Independent or Assisted living depending on your current needs. With you gone, he may follow But please do all you can to stay safe.
Lock the door & change the lock first - talk to a lawyer about this second - talk to your dr. about how this would endanger your health
Is he capable in moving back on his own? - does he have the money to pay someone? - does he have a suitcase to put his things in? - call the taxi companies to say he has no money to pay for the ride so they don't pick him up - tell family members not to help him
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Ask them if they are saying this is a "safe discharge".
Maybe you should go into the AL and let him stay in the home.
Downsize and go to ALF together?
Is he worried about the finances, or you alone at home?
Get them up There and File a Report. You can Go from There, They Care...
But please do all you can to stay safe.
Is he capable in moving back on his own? - does he have the money to pay someone? - does he have a suitcase to put his things in? - call the taxi companies to say he has no money to pay for the ride so they don't pick him up - tell family members not to help him
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