He was just in the hospital for 5 days with AFIB. He had Sundowners every night and one night had to be restrained. It was the worst 5 days of my life. I stayed with him the whole time. The doctor wants to do the surgery but I am scared it will make his dementia worse. His quality of life would not be better. Am I being selfish not to get the surgery for him?
Once I saw that hospitalizations set my mother back rather than improved her poor health, I realized that palliative care was the way to go.
No interventions. No 911. Whatever was wrong, they were going to have to fix it in the NH, not in a hospital.
Aortic valve stenosis is not an emergency.
My husband had a 5.8 mm aneurysm and a leaky aortic valve. (He was 50, no dementia).THAT was a life and death situation and he had full open heart valve and aortic replacement surgery.
Stenosis is not an emergency. I would leave it be.
Best of luck to you.
https://newheartvalve.com/understanding-tavr/what-is-tavr?utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_content=TAVR%20Core&utm_campaign=Management%20-%20TAVR%20-%20EX%20-%20SVD&utm_term=tavr
Anytime you go under after a certain age, it effects memory. My Dad was told the longer he was under, the more memory would be lost. It can make Dementia worse. You need to talk to the doctor about your concerns with Dementia involved. You are his Caregiver, not a trained professional when it comes to after care. I read there are treatments if not severe. The blood has to be able to move properly thru the heart. It can't when a valve is not working properly. Another factor would be what stage is his Dementia in? If the last 2 stages, I may not opt for the surgery.
As a former nurse in cardiology this is not something I would choose for myself, nor for my husband at this age, no matter dementia or no. The decision must be yours, and can only be yours.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/should-my-mother-get-a-pacemaker-483444.htm?orderby=recent
Did your husband ever create a Advance Healthcare Directive? (aka Five Wishes, aka Living Will)
Lots of good pro's and con's for you to consider on that other thread. I wish you wisdom and peace in your heart whatever your final decision is.