Once my Mom was in AL, I never took her back to her house. It really will cause problems. What are you going to do if he refuses to go back to MC. I even stopped taking Mom out to eat with us. Better to let him adjust and except the MC as his home.
I have a few questions first... Can you SAFELY take him out? If you take him to "your home" will he be upset that he has to go back to "his home"? When you bring him back to the MC will he be alright or will he have a behavior problem and be a problem for the staff. Why do you want to bring him to your home? If it is because he is asking to "go home" this is a common term used and it does not always meant "home". Home can be a time when he was healthy Home can be "safe" and he just wants to be reassured that he is safe and cared for. Generally bringing a person with dementia or even a person that can not return to their previous home for any number of reasons is not a good idea. there is confusion. there is disruption of routine there are safety concerns
No. Routine is SO important for people with dementia. And they take much longer to re-acclimate.
My husband’s grandmother had dementia and was in MC. Her daughter (my MIL) would take her out for lunch on weekends, or just drive around. It was okay for awhile but soon it was a detriment.
She thought they’d been out of town and “the hotel” wouldn’t let her back inside. Or thought they were moving away. Once she got back, she couldn’t find her bathroom, wasn’t sure where she was. An outing that was a few hours to us, seemed like a week in her mind.
Eventually my MIL realized taking her mother out was something of a selfish act. It was making MIL feel better about having to put her mother in MC. But it wasn’t helping her mother at all.
How long has he been in memory care? If he hasn't been there that long you should not take him out at all. In time if his dementia can be managed you may be able to take him on an outing. Like to eat or to visit a friend or relative. Make sure you have another person with you to help. Don't try on your own. It's not a good idea to bring him home though. This may trigger bits and pieces of memories that he has of home and cause setbacks for him.
My response would be a resounding NO. Visit him in his new home, it is way too confusing for a person with dementia and will cause you nothing but heartache and stress.
Can you SAFELY take him out?
If you take him to "your home" will he be upset that he has to go back to "his home"?
When you bring him back to the MC will he be alright or will he have a behavior problem and be a problem for the staff.
Why do you want to bring him to your home?
If it is because he is asking to "go home" this is a common term used and it does not always meant "home".
Home can be a time when he was healthy
Home can be "safe" and he just wants to be reassured that he is safe and cared for.
Generally bringing a person with dementia or even a person that can not return to their previous home for any number of reasons is not a good idea. there is confusion.
there is disruption of routine
there are safety concerns
My husband’s grandmother had dementia and was in MC. Her daughter (my MIL) would take her out for lunch on weekends, or just drive around. It was okay for awhile but soon it was a detriment.
She thought they’d been out of town and “the hotel” wouldn’t let her back inside. Or thought they were moving away. Once she got back, she couldn’t find her bathroom, wasn’t sure where she was. An outing that was a few hours to us, seemed like a week in her mind.
Eventually my MIL realized taking her mother out was something of a selfish act. It was making MIL feel better about having to put her mother in MC. But it wasn’t helping her mother at all.
In time if his dementia can be managed you may be able to take him on an outing. Like to eat or to visit a friend or relative. Make sure you have another person with you to help. Don't try on your own.
It's not a good idea to bring him home though. This may trigger bits and pieces of memories that he has of home and cause setbacks for him.