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Contact the Assoc for FTD and join their forum. Ver good group with real world experience. And yes, remove the triggers like photos, for now. You have to adapt.
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It seems to me that your terrified reaction is amply justified, and I’m hoping that you have some alternatives if he turns his reactions in your direction.

He is suffering from a terrible illnesses, as you know, and his behavior can be resulting from any reason or from no reason at all, but the fact is WHY isn’t really what you need to know right now, but instead, how to protect yourself and keep yourself safe, and how he can be HELPED to reduce this troubling and dangerous behavior, which from your comments, seems to be escalating.

Does your husband’s neurologist know how active your husband’s behavior is? Sometimes when we attempt to describe really inappropriate behavior to professionals, we have a tendency to minimize what we’re seeing, out of respect and a sense of protection for someone whom we love dearly and remember as kind, gentle people before they got ill.

You are not in a position to deal with his current situation this way. Consider how distraught he would be if he were well, and knew that his behavior frightened and distressed you. Would it possible for you to make a video clip of what he’s doing, and leave or send the video to the doctor’s office?

I don’t think it will be possible for you to isolate or modify what triggers this, because it sounds as though it’s a symptom of his condition, but you can report the current situation to his doctor as soon as possible, speaking about your husband’s specific actions, what happens before the outbursts occur, and what happens as he becomes more calm and oriented to his surroundings.

For your own safety, you can make notes of what’s occurring around him before he becomes agitated, and plan what you can do to keep him and yourself safe if his behavior does escalate.

Your husband is fortunate to have you.
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CWillie, a panic button is a great idea.  I'm thinking she might also want to discuss the situation with the local police and get some guidance from them.
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I'd be terrified that he may move on to attacking real people since all faces both known and unknown seem to trigger it, you would be wise to keep some kind of panic button with you at all times. And I think that Garden Artist's suggestion of a short stay at a psychiatric facility is a good one, they would be better able to observe his behavior and tweak his medications if they have eyes on him 24/7.
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If you do want to keep him in the home (and that may become impossible given his violent behavior), I would bite the bullet and remove all the photos, etc. and substitute something else, like a basketball with a photo of a politician taped over.  

I don't have any suggestions for electronic devices unless you can find unbreakable plastic shields.    I think there might be some for blue light protection, but I'm not certain on this issue.    Places like Best Buy might have them, if they exist.

For magazines, substitute photo magazines, with focus on relaxing natural areas, like forests, or lakes.  Perhaps find some with sharks, as he might find an outlet in pounding on them, and there's no way he can hurt a live creature by pounding on photos.

Another thing to consider, although it might inadvertently improve his punching skills, is a boxer's punching bag.   Figure out a way to tape photos over it, especially of politicians he doesn't like.   The unintended result though might be that he becomes skilled at boxing.

That's just a guess on what might work. 

I wonder though what led to this fixation on people.  Has he ever mentioned dislike of any of the family members?   I don't have that much experience with dementia so perhaps this isn't as unusual as it seems to be.

As to where did it come from:   Can you correlate it with political events?  Are in you living in an area where political friction has resulted in physical confrontations?   We're in times that are challenging everyone, especially this transition time.  

Sadly, I think you're facing some really difficult times, and a potential placement out of the home in a controlled environment.    A medical institution such as a psychiatric hospital might be better than memory care.   I don't know though whether or not they're accepting new patients, other than those brought in by police, which is something I thought of if his violence escalates.  It's an option  I would investigate.

I wish I could offer some suggestions from experience, as I think those would be more helpful.    I do hope you're finding a way to protect your family by keeping them away, and that you also take precautions to protect yourself.    If I were in that situation, I think I'd be taking judo lessons.   And I mean that seriously.
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