My older sister is in charge so she said my mom put her as a trustee but there was never a trust, just a will. I don't think was even legal but won't send me a copy. She said my mom did the will in 2016, it's now 2021. She's dead and it doesn't look right, it looked forged, but anyway my sisters took her car and they're already planing on selling the house this month. They're lying about what my mom's assests were and never came to see her before she died but they were so fast on getting what my mom had in bank, 400.000 AND NAMES ON DEEDS. I am still hurt but don't want to be left out of stuff. I was calling them out on it, now they blocked me and I don't know what's real or what's not. Feeling broken hearted. I've not only lost my mom but the rest of my family too.
I'm sure my mom would've wanted me to have something.
I think, as do others, that you need legal assistance as there are too many claims w/o substance. Do some online research, or contact the local or state Bar Association and ask if there are "practice sections" or estate and/or elder law attorneys WITH litigation and contested will experience.
Even if not a Will or a Will, your sister can not do what she is doing. Probate cannot be started until a certain amount of days after death. In my State its nine or ten. If no Will she would be an Administrator doing what an Executor would, difference, the State gets involved and determines who gets the inheritance and who gets what. The car, the house, ect is all part of Moms estate and sister can't do anything until she probates. And when she probates, she must send you a copy of the Will upon request. Once filed, its public record.
I think a realtor would be amiss in selling the house if your sister does not have a short certificate showing she has a right to sell it. Same with the car. DMV should not give a new title until proof of death and a short certificate.
I agree, you need to see a lawyer. But be aware, it may make a riff in your family unless some are on your side.
Please look up the rules for your State. Wills must be filed in probate if you are living in the United States. These are public documents. There are also rules that require the executor (it is executor of will and Trustee of Trust) to notify beneficiaries of the wills. Deeds are also public documents in the United States. You can look up the names on a deed. Banks don't notify POD in California, at least, so if you were "pay on death" on any accounts, if your parents don't let you know ahead of time, and a will executor won't let you know the finances, then you are in trouble finding that out unless you know where the people kept their accounts. This is why there is so much "unclaimed money" out there, posted yearly by the states.
I wish you luck. Very sad when this is the case with siblings. If I were you I would contact a Trust and Estate Lawyer, buy an hour of time, and find out the easiest and best ways to check for yourself the status of things. If there are other siblings who feel, as you do, that there is a lot of hanky panky then you can attend together and share cost.