Our decision is to move 8 hours away because our parents are aging and my mom has dementia which she won’t admit to. I don’t think it’s fair to leave all to my brother or sister and also I love and value my mother for raising me. My son is a sophomore and he is extremely angry about it. I do know what it’s like to be relocated in high school. It happened to me but I was in 9th. I feel like he will adjust. But he’s so angry with us and says he’d rather be adopted. I don’t know how to tell him how I’m feeling. He just says I don’t care about him. Am I being selfish? Is he right? I don’t want to hurt him but I also want to teach him the value in caring for family. We’ve lived far away his whole life. He’s such an angry guy anyway.
I am blessed that my family lives local and can all give time to care for our elderly mother.
It has been a difficult couple of years but it has taught our children that our elderly should not be discarded, but honored.
Mom was independent until 18 months ago and now is in hospice care. Praying for a peaceful passing.
Be the respite care person for your siblings. Be there for 2 weeks or a month, so they can get time off. To your Mom, you can call it a visit or vacation. Learn everything you can from your siblings about her needs, but then stay with her if she has room, so that you really know what's going on. 48 hours is what I'm told in my support group, to really know. I understand wanting to teach your son about caring for family. You are doing so with the counseling, smart move.
Just some ideas. You have to do what's best for you. I'm sorry, but I side a bit with your son. Since he's in HS he can probably be OK without both parents present in the home for a couple of weeks? There could be a lot of challenges of which I'm unaware.
I get what you're saying. Believe me I do. People have differences in opinion. We all do. When someone asks for honesty that is what they should get from others. Honesty isn't always what a person wants to hear. It often doesn't come in gentle poetic language either, but it's always best to be truthful.
I described the poster being a martyr. I did that because I was brought up by the greatest martyr second only to Jesus Christ Himself.
My mother.
Now my mom is a person who never drew a breath that didn't have an ulterior motive of some kind with it. Having this kind of parent has taught me to recognize one very easily. Her language alone in the post pretty much verifies that. That kind of post isn't someone looking for support who can benefit from other people's experiences. "Am I Being Selfish?" is not a question that needs asking because a person's conscience answers them. It's more likely a person with a narcissistic personality who knows they're wrong but wants others to validate their selfishness and justify their actions.