Mom was hospitalized with sepsis from a UTI, and is now in rehab. She desperately wants to go home, but my sister would be unable to lift her to help her up (she’s about 275 pounds). We are applying for Medicaid, and need to spend down her modest savings account. We are also planning on putting her in a 24/7 nursing care facility because she can’t (won’t) walk, get up, or take care of her bathroom needs herself. She also has dementia and forgets things regularly, but is also surprisingly aware at times. I’m not sure if we should tell her what we are doing with her money (we have a Power of Attorney), and that she’ll be moving soon to a nursing home. I also don’t know how to tell her about it. What is the right or best thing to do?
If the LTC is not in same building, we told Mom she was getting her own apt and would be meeting new people.