OVer and over I am told she can't live alone - you have to make sure she is safe. Well, I am a firm believer that someone with Alzheimers will NEVER be safe again. Just last month, an employee at the extremely expensive, highly-regarded memory care facility was arrested for killing one of the residents. I watched my stepfather decline rapidly once we moved him there. Moving my mom against her wishes will not be a magic bullet that will solve anything in my mind. Why wouldn't we want to allow her to stay in her home until we absolutely have to? At what point do we decide she doesn't have the right to have control over what little she can? She has lost everything - her intellect, her social life, her ability to drive, travel, her husband, her dog, her independence. Are we wrong for trying to respect her unequivocal desire to stay home? I have 2 sisters and all 3 of us are living in a constant state of stress and anxiety and heartbreak and sorrow and irritation and fear and uncertainty. I worry about calling someone because getting authorities of any kind involved seems risky. We don't know what to do but we know that we don't want to be in a situation where we don't have any say about what happens to her. All i know is my biggest fear is Alzheimers and thinking that my only child could possibly have to live like we are living but without siblings to help.
One day he fell in his bathroom & bruised his head pretty badly. He himself made the decision that he wanted to go in a nursing home.
He really enjoyed himself there as he had constant companionship and different games & arts & crafts to keep him occupied.
He lived another 10 years & passed at the ripe age of 101. His body gave out but his mind was still there.