He gets cash out of her account in $500 increments, so he doesn’t pay income tax on it and he’s declared her as a dependant. She gets $1500 a month and now he’s taking $2000 a month.. Is this legal?
I've contacted APS and attempted to contact her doctor because my brother cancelled her physical therapy from a broken foot.. she’s now confined to a wheelchair.. she’s 92 and blind as well.
My little brother and I are just sick and don’t know if there’s anything we can do. I’ve reported him to the IRS too.
My concern is that mom may not know what he’s doing and if she does she may be agreeing because she’s fearful. She was in assisted living for a brief time but then moved in with him..
He's made it clear that he wants all of her savings too he says he’s entitled to it for caring for her..
There is a thing called a "Caregiver's Contract", (you can look that up on here too), that the 2 of them should discuss and agree upon, which should probably be done with a Lawyer when the family is squabbling over her care, but they can also be done privately too, just be sure to have the contract witnessed and Notorized to make it perfectly legitimate.
Certainly you do believe your brother is entitled to be paid, as she is living in his home, and she definitely should be paying her way, as everybody should. Beyond that, I am sure there is a certain amount of (hard) work that goes into managing her care, as being the primary caregiver is alot of work for one person to do, even with help from other family members. Make sure that Brother knows that he should be keeping good records too, should she be needing MEDICAID in the future!
It would probably be wise if the whole family sat down to discuss this, so that you all have it out in the open, and that your Mom understands, and that it is set up fairly between her and your Brother, this way there won't be any misunderstandings, and your Mom won't feel taken advantage of, but also knows her responsibilities in this.
It is much better to work together, as money has a real way of tearing families apart, especially at this stage of her life, she really needs all of her kids getting along, and working together, and making the best decisions going forward, and for the rest of her life. He may not be able to care for her forever, and what money she does has, needs to last her the rest of her life.
Family strife is so hard on family, especially between a elderly Mom and her kids. Try to work it out without dragging Governmental agencies into the mix!