My mom is making trips to the bank almost daily to withdraw cash, but there is no evidence of what she is spending it on. Has anyone experienced the same situation? Is this an early sign of dementia?

My mom done exactly the same thing withdrawing money from the bank. Moms poa ( my sister) contacted her bank and they agreed she was taking out hundreds per day! They also said if we brought them a diagnosis or letter from her Dr telling the bank that someone else needed to be in charge of Mom's account, they would do what they could to keep my sister with poa in the loop. Mom was never one to keep money in her house. She wasn't computer savvy, so we got the idea she must be sending cash in the mail!
Yep... she would send a $50 bill to every politician on both sides of the spectrum, auto warrantees, home owners warrantees, etc but had no paperwork to back up they were legit. Once mom almost caused a serious driving accident. We realized she shouldn't be in the road. As hard as it was, we called dmv and of course she couldn't pass the test so they pulled her license. The car was sold. She wanted to keep the cash but sis told her it would be safer in the bank. Once we caught onto where her daily cash was going, whichever one of us that was wroth mom that day, offered to mail her"bills" as she called them. We intercepted and retrieved the money. It matched up to her withdrawals, so sister would deposit the money back into mom's account. Mom had no idea we knew what she was up to. If we asked her, she'd say it was for bills and besides, it's none of our business.
I told my sisters that it is our business when she throws away all her money and can't afford memory care then wants to move in with us! Shortly after that, mom would go to the road, stop traffic and talk to the drivers. The neighbors notified my sister and we had her placed in MC. The house was sold and it will buy her a few years of memory care... after that, i guess it will be medicaid. Don't pay attention to those here that tells us it's none of our business because when they start doing off the wall stuff, it IS our business. Do what you gotta do. Good luck!

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Check to see how much she is taking out if you don’t know. It might give you some idea of what’s up or be an amount that is not too damaging to her budget.
My DH aunt loved to go visit with the “girls at the bank”. They really looked out for her and would call me if they were concerned. They cautioned her about leaving with large sums in her pocketbook that she could be followed and robbed.
Your mom must still be driving or does she get others to take her to the bank?
I wouldn’t “confront” her. Maybe that was just a choice of words but with her telling you none of your business it sounded like she felt attacked.
Aunt tended to send money to charities. Watch your moms mail for excessive solicitations. Aunt was also an easy touch for loans that never got paid back. She liked to send cards and would tuck a $20 in for birthdays and other occasions. Nothing large but ongoing. If someone came to visit from out of town, she wanted to give gas money. If they were going on vacation, another contribution. And she liked to play slots.
But she decided on her own to give up her checkbook when she could not remember what she had done with a withdrawal. She would not have responded well with confrontation.
I hope you find the answer and it relieves your concern.

My parents insisted on keeping some cash on hand always. They no longer were driving so it was up to my sister and me to get their cash.

They enjoyed tipping the maintenance man, grocery delivery person, hair dresser, $$ for birthday cards and whoever else did chores for them. They kept forgetting tips were included in some of these services.

We restricted the cash they got each week and made sure plenty of bills were 1's & 5's. Often my dad just wanted to have cash in his wallet.
This satisfied both of them.

I think finding out how much is key. It may be part of her daily routine to get out and about and may be small amounts that she then spends on groceries or something. she might not like the idea of using contactless or card anymore. However it might not, my Nan would give things to people when they visited. I remember her trunk of Irish linen which she gave away to visitors (she had AZ)
I think you’ll find out more when you check her house, Nan would tuck things under the carpet, which has rubbed off on me and mum, we both have hiding places for cash. Mum(83) has to have a certain amount of cash for emergencies, and would like to give for birthdays etc.
I hope you find your answer

You say in your profile that your mom has dementia.
If this is the case then she should not be in control of her own finances.
If she has not yet been diagnosed it is important to get that diagnosis and if you are POA for finances that should be enacted. If she has not assigned POA it might be possible to still do so. If not you or another responsible party should petition to be her Guardian.

Per your profile: I am caring for my mother Wynell, who is 93 years old, living at home with age-related decline, alzheimer's / dementia, hearing loss, and vision problems.

Apparently your mother has not yet been formally diagnosed with one of the dementias but is showing signs, ie: daily withdrawals from the bank & being offended when you ask her about it. I'm sure there are other signs, too, you're just not mentioning them. In my opinion, as their children, it's our DUTY to watch over our parents and to keep them safe, especially if they are exhibiting signs of cognitive decline! Yes, it's their 'right' to spend their money as they see fit, as long as they are MENTALLY FIT to do so. Otherwise, they're being scammed or coerced into spending their money inappropriately and then it's up to US to step in and see to it that such spending stops. Same way we'd step in and get them in home help to prevent a disaster from happening if they did have dementia; same way we'd step in to get the car keys away from them if they were presenting a driving hazard on the road, and so on. We all have rights until we're mentally challenged and then those rights have to be examined to see how they can be best exercised to the elder's advantage. It may be an elder's 'right' to sit out in the 90 degree heat all day long, yet it wouldn't be prudent to allow them to DO it, unless everyone wants to spend the night in the ER.

I see that you're now on mom's bank accounts, thankfully. Keep a close on her and by all means, get help to come into her house b/c a catastrophe is waiting to happen if she's cognitively impaired.

Best of luck!

My mother is 80 with Parkinson’s and lives with my 46 year old quadriplegic sister. My mother had $50,000 in the bank and her account was frozen at $8,000 after she sent multiple caregivers to cash checks for $2,000-$3,000 at a time. My mother hid this money all around her room and bought various items then accused different caregivers of stealing it.

At the same time running up the credit cards for over $45,000 also blaming caregivers. I call it the butler did it scenario, they both are chronic hoarders and spenders and have a long term plan to blame the folks around them for what they are doing.
It sounds like dementia has a part to play but after years of having APS on speed dial and having no power to stop them.
I had to remove myself from the situation. As they are now attempting to sell a property they’ll later say they don’t remember selling after they spend all the money.
How much is dementia and how much is just criminal.

I am 80.
My children have utterly NO idea what I do with my money nor how often I go to the bank, nor what I have IN the bank, nor what I take OUT of the bank.
So I only have one question. How is it that you are privy to this information?
How is it you think you have a right to violate her personal space?
My partner is 82. Each of us have raised two children. Under no circumstances in this world would our children consider such a thing. This is the reason I ask you all of this.
My feeling in this is that there must be something MORE that you are not telling us. Because what your parents have in money, do with their money, is in no way your business unless there IS a problem here. Can you tell us more about why you suspect there needs to be a neurological exam done here? I feel there simply MUST be something I am missing and am very curious what it might be.

I read that you are now on the bank account. So, from what you see is she getting small amounts or substantial that would not be spent in a day?

If you search the house look in picture frames too.That's where I finally found my mom's .She had prediagnosed dementia at that time. Of couse it wasn't out of the bank because by then she couldn't get to the bank without me driving her.It was only about $120.00 but she would move it all over the house never remembering that she had it or where it was.When cleaning out her house to sell, after she went into adult care ,I accidently found it behind a picture in a frame.I would definitely have your mom see a geriatric Dr. soon and get an opinion.Maybe if you do find her money you could take it without her knowing and save it for her in a safe place.Even in the nursing home where sometimes she doesn't know me she still worries about her money