My dad passed Aug 4 at the age of 90. My mom is 87. My youngest sister lives down the street.
Mom doesn’t want ys or any of us living with her at this time. I told her that was fine. She has all her adls and I-adls including driving, so I told her every day to drive somewhere, even to the 7 eleven next to the McDonalds where my mom was known for picking up my dads Big Mac every day.
She also said that should she get to where dad was, she’d rather be in a home. As we know, they change their minds about this, but my mom is being realistic and compsssionate.
Diagnosed with Dementia in her late 80s and changed her mind. He was in his 50s and had a business with a partner, so could not quit work to care for her. So, he had to place her.
I haven't had a Big Mac in 50 years. Every morning it's oatmeal with two scoops of Trader Joe's milled flax meal and almond milk. Boring as hell.
I'd rather have a Big Mac.
Hopefully you are blessed with his genes.
Shoukd she need incontinence care down the road, she will have to hire someone,
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My mom and dad were married 56 years. It’s such an adjustment to lose a husband. Mom missed my dad terribly.
It Is not now but when at 87.
Have fun helping her make a plan. She seems wonderful!