And have taken care of alot of hospice clients in my career. My mom is 97 she has her mind can walk some but is in a lot of pain. A member of the family has taken it upon themselves to get hospice care, I must say my mother has agreed. My question is should she be put in bed and be given strong meds for her pain and slowly watch her die. I guess that’s how I’m looking at it right now.
I think you need to talk to the social worker with the hospice company and learn what hospice is about. You don't seem to be informed about it at all.
Hospice does not mean the same thing to each individual patient. They don't come in, slap the patient in bed and hand out the drugs--it's a process. My FIL, on hospice, was in the hospital, but encouraged to do whatever he felt like doing on any given day.
Yes, hospice does aid in the EOL cacre, and yes, to a degree it IS slowly watching someone die, but at 97? your mom is dying right in front of you anyway. Hospice will simply make that process much less painful and give her some dignity.
If you work in healthcare with the elderly, you would know all this.