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She's also not eating much. I visit every other day and sit with her tomorrow eat. We walk and she is happy when I'm there. This is so hard.

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You may be visiting too often. She’ll never acclimate if she has you as a “social crutch”.
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I would consider medication. The goal is to soothe, not sedate. It can be trial and error at first to get the right med and dosage.
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This can be typical.
No matter how old you are moving into a new place is difficult.
(A friend of mine is in an Independent Living facility, very nice I call it a "cruise ship on land" lot of things going on. But the people are just like they were in High School, cliques form and it can be difficult for a new resident to find niche.)
The facility should what they can to get your mom involved and get her to not isolate.
I would suggest that before they try the antianxiety medications.
I also suggest that when you are visiting get involved in an activity WITH her. When you leave do so when she is involved with something. Even if it is when she is having lunch or dinner. Get her seated and QUIETLY leave. Don't tell her good bye just leave. Or if there is an activity get her involved in that and leave.

Getting acclimated can take time.
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Miamituti2024 Nov 1, 2024
Thank you I'll try that.
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I think that initially there is a lot of adjustment.
How long has she been in care?
I certainly think this is worth discussion with her MD.
Sometimes a low dose anti-depressant helps, and sometimes it doesn't. The fact is that this isn't a happy experience, and there is little sense to trying to "make it happy" all the time.
You know your loved one much better than we do. If the time for any "talk therapy is over; cannot be reasonably done" then I would consider a mood elevation medication to see if it helps.

I sure wish you good luck.
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Miamituti2024 Nov 1, 2024
She's been there 3 wks. I can see a decline. They try to involve her and she does at times. She cries and just want to go to her room. 😔
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