My mother is 62 and lives in Washington State. My sister, who is currently a criminal//drug user is her power of attorney over healthcare. My mom is pretty much confined to a small room and unable to physically get up on her own and take care of self. Mom is very thin and from other family members who have seen her said, she looks dehydrated and very sick. My mom has been an alcoholic for years and may have liver disease.
When I try to call and check on her, she is very angry and seems in-coherent most of the time. Her and I have never gotten along very well with so much verbal abuse and dysfunction with the alcoholism. I just need to make sure she is not dying there in that room.
My sister is always gone and leaves her boyfriend, kids and other friends at house while she "runs errands" drug dealing all day. My mom is in diapers now and has bedsores and no appetite. I feel she is being seriously neglected. Is there any advice you can give me to try and get her help.
I am not comfortable going there because my mom is very angry with me and will not compromise or agree to anything I want to do to help her.
It is so upsetting for me because there's no fix for this! I have two young childrern of my own who need me and I will not bring them into that (druggie, alcoholic, dysfunctional) type of environment. I am very protective of my girls, possibly because of the turmoil that I went through as a child.
I am going to continue to nag the authorities of Washington State and try to get more people involved in the matter because I know that this mistreatment to my mom is not right in any way! They just keep telling me that if she seems to have her mental health to make her own decisions that she is able to decide on her health choices. The problem there is that she has never been able to make sane, sensible decisions for herself. She has been an alcoholic for many years and very unstable lifestyle choices.
thanks for your input everyone. I am going to keep you posted on the situation. My step today is to call an elderly abuse hotline and see if they can help on this??
Keep trying Cristie, get others involved, something should be done to help her, even if she doesn't see the need for it herself. Abuse is abuse, in any state!!!
Thanks again M.M.